5 Causes of Teenage Pregnancy Depression

Teenager Pregnant Depression

In the U.S. alone according to The Office of Adolescent Health more than 500K teens get pregnant every year and I almost can bet that +80% (if not 100%) of these pregnant teenagers weren’t planned, I certainly win the bet after doing a little homework.

Pregnant teenagers haven’t developed the body fully as a woman but have to face the same pregnancy-related issues as matured women do.

For teens who deal with the challenges of pregnancy, judgment, parents, and pediatricians, not finding any support and guidelines on how to proceed can be a lot of stress which can lead to a depressed pregnant teenager, which is even worse.

Most Common Causes of Teen Pregnancy

Pressure From the Media

With all the risk related to an adolescence pregnancy, I don’t understand why in recent years the media started to begin a glamourization of getting pregnant in the teen years of a girl.

For those of you who don’t know what I’m talking about, I’m referring to the kind of shows like “16 and pregnant”. They tend to glorify teen pregnancy and hide all the true adversity teens have to face.

Also, it seems like today’s teens to be “in” have to be pregnant and have children early in their teens and 20’s. Something has shifted and this is becoming the norm nowadays. Not knowing that this is a perfect scenario for teens to get depressed.

Alcohol and Drugs Abuse

Teenagers experiment with the use of drugs and alcohol and even abuse them. While it is not recommended to use these toxic substances, sometimes they do use them in social gatherings and parties by peer pressure.

It has been well established and it has been known like forever that the use of alcohol and drugs lead to unprotected sex, (and more in teenagers with the hormones, you know) and lastly to unwanted and unplanned pregnancy.

Sexual Abuse

If the teenage girl doesn’t want to have sex but is still coaxed to do it by force or fear she can get a long life trauma from this event. Many years may pass and she can still feel the effects of depression of being treated like a sexual object from the perpetrator.

This is common in preteens too and the worse thing is that they don’t want to talk about it because it’s difficult to feel trust in someone else or themselves. They feel dirty in their bodies all the time and most likely will need a lot of therapy and support to overcome that trauma.

Parents Not at Home

When a teenager girl doesn’t feel she can openly bring the topic of sex to her parents because they forbid it or because they are absent most of the time, very likely she’ll seek advice from friends on whether or not to have sex, resulting in teen pregnancy because of the misinformation and lack of knowledge.

The real thing to pinpoint here is not just that the parents aren’t at home, but the lack of communication between them and their child or teen.

The Family Environment

Children exposed to family strife between her parents, common domestic violence and abuse are more likely to get pregnant in their adolescence. A dysfunctional family it’s a common predetermination to an unhealthy mental and emotional development in teenagers.

This problem is not just for girls, but boys who have an unhealthy family environment are more likely to impregnate girls in their teenage years too.

Conclusion

I think that something so precious and important as getting married, forming a family, and having a baby is being portrayed nowadays like not the ideal standard. The standard today is to be seen and admired by many people as possible.

Don’t believe me?

Look at the behavior of most teenagers or young adults in their 20’s of both sexes and the most common trends you’ll find, it’s to be adored in their social media profiles, (almost idolized).

Social status and the recognition from the masses it has become everything for them, and things like who you’re dating, what are you doing in your spare time, how good looking it’s your boyfriend or girlfriend has become in the most important things. (The standards of the modern age.)

These shallow things will eventually demand more from the people who are in this way of thinking, and thing like; is he good in bed? all of my friends had sex, I’m 14, why I can’t find a boyfriend and have sex too? Am I good looking? Am I sexy enough?… well you get the idea.

This way of thinking on teenagers mixed with a dysfunctional family, lack of knowledge, low communication between parents and their children, peer pressure to obtain social status and the use of alcohol and drugs is a great recipe for a teenager girl to end up pregnant and lastly depressed because of all the stress and anxiety produced by this big decision taken so lightly.

How to Stop Depression

Stop Depression

When depression climbs the ladder up to our mind and emotions we transform ourselves into our worst depressive state, and we don’t know how to stop depression to take over our mind. If we knew how to do it, life would be so much easier.

It’s natural that we want to get out of depression and give the stop signal right away. But how?

Stop Depression Before it Gets Stronger

First and foremost we need to start practicing listening to ourselves, listening to our emotions, and our thoughts, in our current situation.

Whatever your truth is and whatever your feelings are, listening to yourself will make you aware of the pattern your taking when starting to feel depressed.

When you are in the situation (low mood, being depressive, feeling blue, or whatever you call it.) it’s a lot harder to think, act, and make a decision because things get fuzzy and confusing. Better to be clear on what to do before the situation arises stronger.

Another thing you need to start doing is talking about your concerns more openly about your situations (and the thought patterns that bring you there) because people who experience depression episodes aren’t crazy. They are just experiencing negative things more intensely than average people.

To prevent depression you need to rehearse in your mind the process of what you need to do when it’s happening. It’s like putting a contingency system or emergency plan on the actions you need to take in order to stop it and from there just need to take action on that plan.

Some of the things to include and consider on that action plan are:

  • Who are you going to call?
  • Write the things you’re grateful today.
  • Read your past success.
  • Avoid curling yourself in bed, go out for a walk instead.
  • Try not to stay alone.
  • Watch, read or listen to something funny and/or motivational.
  • Breath, do some exercise, get sweaty.
Conclusion

The best way to stop something is to ensure ways that will not happen. But shit happens anyway, when things that we are trying to prevent happens anyways, happens with less intensity and power over us.

We’ll have more control and a better understanding of what to do and how we will manage the situation when it’s happening because we have identified our thinking pattern and can take action on an emergency plan that we’ve established to fight back and stop depression.

If things are getting overwhelming (as usually are) we need to find someone we can trust to fight with us.

That’s for sure one of the best pieces of advice.

Jesus and Depression

Did you know that most people who suffer from depression and get well, are at a higher risk of getting depressed again in the future? And a lot of them actually get more depressed…

It’s like their symptoms and their depression has been suppressed instead of having been cured once and for all.

That makes me interested in searching, looking and tweaking until finding a way to beat depression and make it stay away for good the rest of our lives. I think I just found it!!

Jesus and Depression,
Jesus and Depression

The thing is that when you’re depressed you think you’re alone in this darkness and hopeless because cannot see the way out. We feel like we are stepping into quicksand sinking little by little with every minute.

Some sayings about Jesus I could find and relate them to the lens of fighting depression:

Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: 
no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.

John 14:6

and all drank the same spiritual drink, 
for they were drinking 
from a spiritual rock which followed them;
and the rock was Christ.

1 Corinthians 10:4

Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, 
and I will give you rest.

Matthew 11:28

Having the belief that someone bigger than ourselves has sacrificed himself for our salvation and well being, it’s the ultimate sign of true love.

I’ve decided to talk about the most powerful way to beat depression and make sure doesn’t pop up in the future, because if I’m honest Jesus can turn your life around in an instant once you accept him in your heart.

I don’t know who said it or if someone has said this, but there’s no room for depression in your life when Jesus Christ is there.

Well, it’s just that…

Sounds like there’s an objection to my last statement.

Listen, I get it. I understand that this is a big step to take in your life. But remember that depression is as well a big deal.

Jesus wants that we have life and live abundantly and a life full of depression is not an abundant life. Period.

Just need to repent of your sins ask for forgiveness and if you ask with your heart, you’ll be able to feel his eternal love and forgiveness. From there Jesus will take charge of all your anxiety and depression.

My intention is not to give you a sermon on accepting Jesus (or not just that) as your savior but instead giving you reasons for hope and love that waiting on him is the best thing we can do to solve our depression problems.

As real and intense you feel the emotions of sadness, anxiety, and depression, that nobody gets, you also feel the emotions of love, hope, and faith when you believe and wait in him.

Everybody that have accepted Jesus in their heart and have faith in him can understand this.

How to Know If I am Depressed

Want To Know How Depressed You Really Are?

Take a quiz to self-evaluate yourself by answering the questions below.

(Note: All questions are taken from depression.org.nz)

How often have you been bothered by feeling down, depressed, irritable, or hopeless over the last two weeks?

How often have you been bothered that you have little interest or pleasure in doing things over the last two weeks?

How often have you been bothered by trouble falling asleep, staying asleep, or sleeping too much over the last two weeks?

How often have you been bothered that you have a poor appetite, weight loss, or overeating over the last two weeks?

How often have you been bothered by feeling tired, or having little energy over the last two weeks?

How often have you been bothered by feeling bad about yourself – or feeling that you are a failure, or that you have let yourself or your family down over the last two weeks?

How often have you been bothered that you have trouble concentrating on things like school work, reading, or watching TV over the last two weeks?

How often have you been bothered by moving or speaking so slowly that other people could have noticed? Or the opposite – being so fidgety or restless that you were moving around a lot more than usual over the last two weeks?

How often have you been bothered by thoughts that you would be better off dead, or of hurting yourself in some way over the last two weeks?

You should answer all of the questions with “not at all”, “a few days”, “most of the days” or “almost every day”. Each one of the answers has a value of 0,1,2 and 3 respectively.

For the complete quiz and full diagnosis evaluation, you may follow this link.

Notice that all questions of the test are based on how you’re feeling in the last 2 weeks. It is this way because according to the manual doctors use to diagnose depression and anxiety called DSM-5, you must have shown some symptoms of these for at least 2 weeks.

Knowing how severe is your depression and with what you’re struggling the most will definitely help you fight depression more efficiently.

Once you know better about your depression, I’ll encourage you to find a way on how to beat it.

Here are some resources that you might find helpful.

Tips for Fighting Depression

Thrill of Victory Against Depression

Self-Awareness to Beat Depression

Natural Ways to Fight Depression

Suicidal Thoughts Of Depression

For many different reasons, many people have feelings and suicidal thoughts all over the world. You’re not alone in this fight against those feelings and thoughts.

What every person with suicidal thoughts have in common is that they feel overwhelmed, hopeless and confused about what is about to come into their lives because don’t find meaning in it.

This is how depression works; it makes you feel like your feelings are too much to handle, everything seems too big of a problem, every situation seems worst than what actually it is. You’re not crazy for thinking like this, you just have a lot of depression.

Understanding Suicidal Thoughts
Suicidal Thoughts, depression

Keeping things simple, (like I love to do) suicidal thoughts are triggered by an overwhelming feeling of stress mixed with depression.

Some situation that provokes stress in us are;

– Legal Problems: Dealing with something legal like a divorce or deportation for whatever reason is a lot of stress to manage. A lot of people can’t feel like there’s another solution instead of taking their lives.

– Sexual Identity: I know this is a personal ground of each one of us, but reality tells me that having a confusion about your sexuality can lead you to depression and lastly suicide. For further proof, you may know that there’s a 40% suicidal rate among transgender people, a lot higher than non-transgender people.

– Financial Problems: An overwhelming debt and not knowing where to get the resources to pay it is one of the common reasons why people commit suicide and succeed.

– Health Problems: Dealing with cancer, chronic pain, diabetes, or any kind of medical condition it’s stressful too. What’s even worse is that some medications can actually make feelings of depression worse. Talk to your doctor if you feel any medication makes you feel depressed.

– Mental Problems: Or what I consider “emotional problems” like depression and anxiety can worsen your feelings, leading you to have suicidal thoughts more frequently.

– Loss: Social status, a job, a breakup, the loss of a loved one by death, or any kind of loss, make us feel sad and thinking about how we’re going to deal with this life without it. For some people, there’s a lot of pain and grief to deal with, and start having suicidal thoughts.

How to Stop Suicidal Thoughts

Instead of trying to escape everything and evade this difficulty, you need to look at the facts and realize that life, itself, is an ongoing mastery of difficulties and overcoming of obstacles.

I mean, everybody has difficulties and problems to solve in their own lives but by seeing things with the “depression lens” you think that everything is worse, first step to stop having these feelings is by communicating with others about them.

A powerful statement to write every day in the morning is this one;

"I'm grateful because 
Everyday in everyway I'm getting better and better"

If you feel a lot depressed at any given moment then start writing this statement and fill an entire sheet with it. Afterward, check how you’re feeling again, I bet you feel a lot better.

Grab another sheet of paper and start writing all the reasons for being alive, if it’s too hard to think of a lot of them, then at least just right 10. When you finish call a friend or someone you trust and read them your new list.

You’ll be surprised at how well this technique works!!

There’s also common sense that if you take care of yourself you’ll feel better about yourself. You know that common knowledge like don’t use alcohol or drugs, have a healthy diet, do some exercise every day and do things that you enjoy doing even if you feel like not doing it at all.

Well, If you’re thinking about killing yourself or know someone with this kind of thoughts I hope that this post can help to stop depression and suicidal thoughts.

There are a lot of options out there and all of them are better than taking your life!

Remember you’re not fighting this fight alone!

Natural Ways to Fight Depression

Fight Depression

Going natural is always a better way to deal with everything in life, everything that comes synthetic always comes with a sort of side effects we don’t want to deal with. And for those of you who suffer from depression, there are several natural ways to fight depression you should consider before taking the synthetic way.

For the sake of keeping things simple let’s say that depression is a serious condition in which your mind and body are out of balance, and what you need to do is to balance your state again.

A very important thing to always take in consideration is that depression it isn’t a disease perse, as soon as you make a distinction of treating it like an illness you’ll start to considerate taking some drugs to get healthy again, which many will tell you is not a rainbow way full with candies and ponies.

Let’s take a look at some of the most common Natural Ways to Fight Depression proven to work;

Massage Therapy

Cortisol is produced as a result of your body responding to stress, getting a massage will lower your cortisol levels to half. It also will increase your serotonin and dopamine levels which helps you to stabilize your emotions by making you more relaxed.

A psychological positive effect of a massage therapy is that makes you remember that you deserve to be happy and feel good in your own skin.

Vitamin D

According to some studies, deficiency of vitamin D is correlated with depression. And according to a lot of studies a high-dose of vitamin D, helps to decrease some symptoms of depression. Thank God vitamin D is safe in high-doses because is recommended that persons suffering from depression to maintain vitamin D above normal levels.

More research is needed to understand how vitamin D exactly work to help cure the symptoms of depression but what experts know is that those with suicidal thoughts that have depression, almost immediately got better from that symptom when the vitamin D was at higher levels in the blood.

By the way, the Sun is a great source of vitamin D.

Physical Activity and Exercise

Probably the best natural drug you can take (produce better said) is doing exercise.

A lot of chemicals are being released in the brain when your doing some kind of physical activity, like serotonin which helps you improve your mood, health and well being.

A monumental quantity of studies has shown that exercise promotes mental health and make depression lower its intensity. I believe that a psychological factor to this is that you’re taking care of yourself which makes your self-esteem goes up by making the effort of sweating and working out.

St John’s Wort

To be honest, I personally don’t know how effective is this wort, (so I cannot be sure 100% to recommend it). But some studies suggest that it’s more powerful than many antidepressants without the side-effects.

If you want to see a more immediate result of improvement with less risk then you may try consuming St John’s wort. You may find it in supermarkets and health food shops as liquid form or tablets.

Conclusion

Natural is better because helps you avoid the side effects of unnatural ways.

While there are many natural ways to fight depression, you don’t need to get overwhelmed and use them all at once, but yet you need to develop a plan to start using at least one for a week and then implement another one in the next week, checking always how’s your mood and how well you’re improving.

Antidepressants Against Depression

Antidepressants, Pills,

Some studies have shown that one in 4 people can become more anxious rather than less after taking antidepressants. That’s a 25% chance of worsening what you are trying to eliminate.

Many years may pass and people report that still suffer from the effects of the drug-cocktail which doctor have prescribed to treat the side-effects of the original antidepressants they were taken.

There are cases (rare according to experts) that people develop suicidal thoughts and the desire to harm themselves after taking antidepressants for the first time. And to our surprise, those that are under 25% seem to be at a higher risk.

With this kind of data and statements out there how can young adults, teenagers, and children feel safe using antidepressants against depression?

Side effects of using antidepressant are for many people out there the #1 reason for stop using these medications.

Seriously, How Antidepressants Can Be Considered As An Alternative to Fight Against Depression?

The most famous and most common antidepressants are Effexor, Celexa, Remeron, Paxil, Prozac, and Zoloft.

Some studies have shown that the use of antidepressants can have on you the side effects listed below:
  • Irritability
  • Aggression
  • Criminal behavior
  • Insomnia
  • Hallucinations and paranoia
  • Akathisia
  • Suicidal thoughts, suicidal attempts.
  • Agitation
  • Psychosis
  • Acting and thinking violently.
  • Tremors
  • Incoherent actions and thoughts
  • Nervousness and anxiety
  • Hostile social interaction
  • Extreme sweating
  • Loss of libido
  • Constipation
  • Blurred vision
  • Dry mouth
  • Sedation
  • And the list goes on and on…

But the thing doesn’t end here because when you try to withdraw antidepressants you may suffer some symptoms too that generally last about a month to years; dizziness, headaches, insomnia, “zap” sensations inside the head, vomiting, more suicidal thoughts, more aggression, being depressive, just to name a few.

Antidepressants are not benign drugs and any doctor, friend or person that recommend you using them may not know all the facts and risk pertaining to its use. I hope this is clear to you after educating yourself on this blog post.

Some people may say that this actually happens as part of a bigger conspiracy of releasing drugs into the market, creating a dependency on them (a hungry market), and start massively producing them without a further and conclusive test. From there the big guys just have to start counting the profit they’re making every year.

Applying some logic to this situation it seems very reasonable and very sinister from the financial perspective of a looking at it as a business. And while at a certain level could be true, most of us cannot prove it. (That’s why it’s been called a conspiracy).

Conclusion

Antidepressants aren’t good, try to avoid them as much as you can, a solution proved to bring some nasty side effects and worsening what you want to threat, (depression and anxiety) is not a healthy solution after all.

Find some alternatives to antidepressants that work better than them and use the ones that best suits you and your personal needs;

Having a CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy), joining to self-help groups, regular exercise, IPT (Interpersonal therapy), counseling, walks in open nature, taking the sun, getting a massage are some considered alternatives to antidepressants. But more research is needed.

Self-Awareness to Beat Depression

Beat depression, mind
Beat Depression With Your Conscience 

Haven’t you hear the phrase “It’s better to prevent than to lament”?

Don’t wait for a problem to be big enough for you to take action and try to solve it, it’s better to develop a system that let us prevent all kind of problems in our lives. I’m referring to constantly do an introspection in ourselves of how we are growing towards the kind of person we desire to be.

This is call self-awareness, and it present in our life when we can step outside our own mind to examine our thinking and behavior, as a way to understand what’s working and what isn’t.

With self-awareness, you’ll see why you are experiencing life as you are, and from there can make better decisions on the best way to proceed to solve any situation, like depression and anxiety.

Self-Awareness Reduce or Increase Anxiety and Depression?

To that question, I would say that absolutely helps you to reduce the effects of depression, not to increase it.

There’s a confusion between self-indulgence and self-awareness. The former is being judgemental about your way of doing things with the mean to protect your ego. The latter is non-judgmental, is doing introspection without your ego to better understand why you’re doing what you’re doing now.

When you are self-aware of your behavior, you’re in a good place to start changing what’s wrong and you can acknowledge what’s right in it.

By no means, I’m telling you that just with self-awareness you can cure depression when you just want to curl in a fetal position on your bed. But remember that first step of solving a problem is to acknowledge there is a problem.

How to Be More Self-aware

Every time you make the hard decision on getting from the bed, every time you call a friend to talk, every time you try to know yourself better, you’re becoming a little bit more self-aware.

For making huge steps on developing self-awareness you need to make your own journey of exploring your self-worth, self-acceptance, and self-confidence.

Ask yourself these questions;

Who do I want to be?

What I’m afraid of?

What do I think about myself?

What makes me angry?

What do I want to accomplish in this world?

What makes me sad?

What makes me happy?

Who I’m I? 

Person pointing mind, beat depression

Your life gets so much better when you align your behavior with your dreams. No doubt about it.

Once you become more self-aware you’ll have the wisdom to solve any kind of problem in your life. This is key if you want to reduce and beat depression from its core.

It was the famous philosopher Aristoteles who said;

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom”

This is how you learn to manage your emotions and become charismatic, self-confident, and joyful. This is the kind of people that seem to not be disturbed by anything or anyone. It is like life is served on a silver plate to them. Because they really know!

School Makes Me Depressed

School Makes Me Depressed
The Stress and Depression from School

The feeling of depression from school is born mostly in teenagers and kids because school is designed not to be a pleasant and happy place to entertain, but to study and learn. The school curriculum consists of the subjects that the government think are appropriate for students and not what actually is useful and relevant in today’s world.

What is counterintuitive is that we can learn better if we feel happy and at ease, and this is because our cognitive processes work without the need to deal with the stress that we get from an unpleasant environment. Think about it, passing tests, doing homework, get good qualifications to get accepted into college, so later we get a better (society) status from our academic efforts to get qualified for a job and earn money.

I get it, school is stressful and we get tired of dealing with this stress and over some time we can even get very depressed after being tired of fighting that stress.

Another factor that I’ve considered about being depressed by the school is that teenagers feel they have a lack of control over their lives and doesn’t know how to get back that control. They don’t own their own lives, but teachers, bullies, parents, essays and a whole dimension of endeavors expected from them to be someone resourceful in our society.

If School Makes Me Depressed, Then What Should I Do?

The first thing to do is to recognize that life is not an easy ride on a rollercoaster. There are ups and downs that life shows us and things can turn for the better in any given turn. Stay positive even when it feels is going insane mod on you.

Once you are determined on dealing with the depression the best thing to do is always to talk with someone like a counselor, but definitely, do not try to deal and solve it all by yourself, the way uphill is a lot more difficult and treacherous doing it alone.

Most teenagers don’t know what they want in their life (don’t have a definite chief aim) but I’ll give you this advice anyway, maybe school makes you depressed because school is not for you. Period. School is not for everybody and a lot of millionaires and billionaires dropout school can testify that for you.

If it’s school that’s depressing you and if you want to start a business or follow your dream and that doesn’t require a college degree, then you should have a serious talk with your parents, because this is serious stuff to talk about.

Things are not easy in this life, but before you attempt to do anything drastic, make sure that is in your best interest, don’t take my advice of dropping out the school just to play video games and chill out in life, because life will not chill out on you unless you become someone valuable.

I’ll leave you with this quote about education:

“Education is valuable nowadays, just look at all students loans and college debt. But Self-education is priceless, just look at all successful people”

Anonimous

I Feel Miserable Because of my Boyfriend

I Feel Miserable, depressed

With everything new to discover, your body and mind growing to adulthood and boys now checking you out with different eyes, having a boyfriend and knowing how to manage this new kind of relationship… being a teenage girl can be a real challenge, I get it.

Maybe you aren’t sure of asking yourself “do I feel miserable because of my boyfriend or is depression affecting my relationship”?  What you really want to know is whether your relationship is making you feel miserable or you’re feeling depressed and it’s now affecting your relationship.

To help you clear any doubt I’ll give you 5 sure signs that you have a toxic relationship and the best thing to do is saying goodbye before you invest more time and energy with him.

  • 1 – You Don’t Feel Like Been Equal to Your Partner in This Relationship

Is he bossing you around? Maybe he has a kind of authority that you cannot deny but you can recognize when someone is using authority to enhance your life or just to make you feel inferior.

Being equal in this case means that both of you have the same level of power and authority over each other. If you don’t feel like being equal in your relationship there’s a sure sign that in the future your boyfriend will take you for granted and stop valuing you as a partner in life.

It’s healthier to have shared power than an imbalanced power scale in love relationships, no doubt about it.

  • 2 –  A Partner is Not Your Life but an Enhancement of It

And Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper meet for him.” Gen 2:18

Guess what, it works the other way around a man is also a helper and your boyfriend should be a helper in your life too. The confusion in a relationship starts when both of the partners want to be together but have different goals and expectations about life.

Best thing to do is always to have the talk at an early stage and be clear about what you want and what he wants. Otherwise, what is the reason to be in a relationship if it’s not going to be a healthy one?

  • 3 – It Is Your All Fault? Or Is He Twisting Everything so It Seems Like It Is?

I think this is probably the worst kind of behavior you can expect from someone, especially from a person that you want to have an intimate relationship with, like a boyfriend.

This is a form of gaslighting and the end result of taking this kind of behavior is to make you feel responsible for everything that is going wrong. But even worse than that is that he can’t take any responsibility for their actions and need someone else to blame.

With this lying, blaming, and lack of responsibility on his part, can you really trust him? can you really feel secure being with him?

Time passes by and you’ll end up fighting depression if you accept this kind of behavior.

  • 4 – Your Boyfriend Has Low-intensity Anger.

Being angry or mad is one thing, but being angry all the time about the smallest things is not good.

If you or your boyfriend cannot manage the anger issues is a sign that there’s not enough maturity. Being angry communicates that we’re not being happy and the anger of someone always is projected onto someone else.

A loving relationship is about being happy together not about someone lashing and discharging his anger in someone else.

  • 5 – Being irresponsible and Don’t Do His Fair Share.

Let’s keep things simple. Putting you down in any form can spark anxiety and depression making you feel miserable, and goods feelings are added with any form of appreciation.

If you are the only one investing the energy and love to nurture the relationship and feel like he’s not doing it, chances are he deep down think this relationship is not working and doesn’t feel like is worthy to do the effort.

This is an element of your relationship that needs attention from both, loving relationships are not made by one, but by two.

Loving relationships can ignite all kind of pains and insecurities (a chance for personal growth). The sooner you face the reality of your relationship, the faster you can get over deciding your next best move.