Loneliness and Depression

Why I feel very lonely? 
Why I’m feeling depressed?
I just want to get lonely because I’m super depressed…
loneliness and depressed woman

This is the kind of self-talk that a person who is feeling abnormal levels of anxiety and sadness will have which eventually lead to a secure feeling of depression.

Feeling lonely even when we are surrounded by friends, relatives or close people to us, is normal. You’re fine! Maybe you remember something that brought this feeling to the surface, and this is a natural response to that memory even if we are in the noisiest party or nightclub.

Loneliness and depression go by hand together but they aren’t the same thing. Loneliness is like the pain associated with the lack of social interaction, is like not being feed enough from the companionship of other human beings, or other living beings like a dog.

Depression instead, is the combination of feeling hopeless, sad, and unworthy which lead us to get lonely and depressed. Depression is not triggered by a need for loneliness, but, both of them can improve significantly with the feeling of belonging to a social group or having an intimate relationship with someone. This explains why we all crave for a partner in crime in our lives.

About Living Alone

*  People without social isolation tend to recover better and present faster improvement compared to those who don’t have anyone to support them.

* Teenagers and adults who feel like fighting and figuring out everything alone without supporting family members present a higher risk of suicide.

* The stress is also increased on those people who live alone and for whatever reason isolate themselves.

* The sleep is easily disturbed on lonely people. Spending less time in bed and in profound sleep leads to a deficiency to recharge energy and therefore feeling sluggish all day.

* Some studies state that loneliness is a reason for an increase in the stress hormones and a higher level of blood pressure. It means that the heart must work in an overdrive state, and with time the subject will surely develop some sort of heart malfunction.

* Lonely people think, act and talk in a more pessimistic way, don’t have or have little enthusiasm for having close relationships, hence social interactions don’t produce any liberation from stress.

* People who are lonely, try to find some other way to deal with their feelings (especially teens) by the abuse of alcohol, drugs, gambling or their preferred addiction. And hardly show signs of recovery, unlike people who are not lonely.

What Should We Do When Feeling Lonely?

If we are feeling very lonely for quite a time and this feeling is persistent, then these are some ways we can prevent, stop and cure this feeling of being a lone wolf in the forest.

A) Let’s get a pet. Remember that you want to get social interaction and companionship. Dogs are the most solicited in this department, but a cat, a bird or a fish might do the job too.

B) Don’t be alone. Make a call to an old friend, set up a meeting, or a 5 min conversation about anything with someone and check how you’re feeling in the ongoing interaction.

C) Focus on a social hobby. Everybody loves to do something and if other humans beings are involved, the better.

D) Seek help. Talk about how you are feeling with someone that you trust. By being a little bit vulnerable you’re actually getting closer to that person and any feeling of loneliness will evaporate before you know.

E) Laugh. Youtube can be an everlasting source of finding something to laugh, but be aware it can become an addiction…

There are other things that can help you out to dismiss the feeling of loneliness and depression, like defining a “definite chief aim” but those deserve their own blog post from me.

Is Social Media Causing Depression in Teens?

Social Media Causes Depression

To understand how social media can cause depression we need to understand how social media affects society in general, especially in teenagers.

Today’s modern society is eager to find out what others will think of them and unrealistic ways, one way to ensure the perfect recipe for depression is to create a lot of anxiety by no getting what we want.

This is the short and sweet answer about how social media is one of the major reasons for depression in the last decade.

Let’s get a more in-depth answer on how and why can affect the lives of so many teenagers

How Social Media Causes Depression?

There are certain risk factors that a teenager is more likely to be a victim and fall into anxiety and depression.

  • Being sexualized and the social connotations in our society are hugely amplified in text messages.

  • Still figuring out who they want to be.

  • The mind and body of a teen are changing and sometimes they feel something is wrong with them.

  • Social expectations are higher now that they are becoming adults.

  • It doesn’t matter how many connections they have, they’re mostly virtual not real. 

  • They are still child’s who are figuring out how to be an adult.

  • They take it very seriously when others don’t validate them.

When You Become an Actor/Actress in Your Own Profile?

In the expectations of getting more likes, more shares and followers they tend to create a profile and publish the content that is somewhat perfect (or try to create). The perfect picture, the perfect smile, the nice meal, what I’m doing today, etc…

Only to convey the message that they have an interesting life, and they are happy and joyful, so others can see them because this is what they are.

Nothing further for the truth, because that image they want to portray is not the real deal, and worse is setting the expectations of not having any flaws, like living in an illusory fantastic world that they want to share with the world by using social media.

It seems that there’s another persona that is taking charge of the lives who follow that trend, I’m not joking. And that persona doesn’t tolerate reality.

The reality is that we cannot expect to like everybody or compare to anyone because every one of us is unique in his own way.

Alarming Stats of the Rising Depression Epidemy

According to some studies in the years between the years of 2010 and 2015, there was an increase in teens who felt joyless and useless in the U.S. Suicide attempts on teens increase. But the worst and most discouraging part is that suicide in teens of 13-18 years old went up too.

Some other studies suggest a direct connection to the increased number of teens (and kids) who own a smartphone or tablet in the same period of time.

Another thing that we need to keep in mind is the how and how much time teens are using social media, I mean, not everything should be bad, social media is a great way to keep in touch with relatives and friends, and meet new people, but that is.

When social media is being used 2-3 or more hours a day in a way to replace real face-to-face human connection, we need to know that it isn’t a healthy habit.

My take on this is that everybody should know when is too much, acknowledge how you feel about the effect that is having the use of social media in your life and if something feels a little fishy smelly then stop using it and do some other activities instead.

Talk about your feelings and seek help with someone you trust, but don’t go to feed your ego with social media when you’re feeling blue because it will make you feel worse in the long run.

A Major Reason for Teen Depression

First thing first, nobody has an easy life, even Jeff Bezos and Bill Gates have their problems, the difference is that they have the kinds of problems that almost everybody wants to have in their lives. Like deciding what to do next with their fortune.

While no one really knows how depression is triggered in our life we have been able to identify some factors in our lifestyle that deepen the depression state.

An improper diet, social validation, psychological abuse are the most known, but for those teenagers who don’t or haven’t suffered from these experience is there any reason to be depressed?

Does a teen have reasons to be depressed?

Behind the scenes of a teen lifestyle, in this modern era being a teenager suppose a lot of stress because of the massive amount of pressure that is required of them. Expectations are very high in many aspects of their lives, like choosing a career. This may be a major reason for teen depression.

Something like defining who you want to be and what you want to accomplish in your life is very important and stressful, I get it.

There are two ways of seeing it and it will depend in the way you look at everything in your life, you either see it with a lot of excitement to define your purpose in the world or for whatever reason you get worried and discouraged because you can’t decide.

In this particular example, I believe this can only be a valid reason to be a worried and a little bit depressed if you can’t get the right counsel to establish a “definite chief aim” -your passion- and have the tendency to see everything in a pessimistic way.

I always keep in mind that you (as a teenager) are on the stage between leaving your childhood and starting to embrace your adulthood, meaning that you need advice, encouragement, and knowledge from someone wiser, usually your parents.

What I can say for certain that will help you (as a teenager) a lot is that you need to strengthen up your character and define what you really want in your life, like how do you want to see yourself in the next 10 years.

If you’re having trouble deciding your life (for the rest of your life) then decide just for the next 10 years or 20 years, that’s it!

You always can make adjustment along the way!!

depression, teenager depression,

Start looking at the horizon with a new perspective by asking yourself, who do I want to serve?

This is a serious topic, but there’s no need for you to don’t have to be so serious to actually get worried and depressed about it.

I hope this post helps you on feeling more secure about this whole topic, but if you are really having troubles with deciding your career then I’ll recommend seeing this article on Forbes. Answer the 9 questions over there and you’ll be on your way to find your dream career. Trust me!

Depression, Sadness & Anxiety

While the best way to know whether you have depression, anxiety or are just feeling sad is to go to a therapist, to recognize them is better to go blind on what you’re feeling and why.

We tend to confound depression, sadness, and anxiety because the three of them go hand in hand in hand. There’s a small level of sadness when you feel anxious, and depression is a mental illness that put you in a prolonged (and more intense) state of sadness.

If you or someone in your family suffer from anxiety is most likely that you or that relative someday will fall into the claws of depression, and those who suffer from the anxiety disorder can also suffer depression someday in their lifetime.

I know that doesn’t sound like good news…

monkey, depression, anxiety, sadness

But the good news is that there are things that you can change in your life that will eventually provide you an armored skin and mind against all these nasty disorders.

If you’re open to seeing the world in a completely different way of the ordinary way, you’ll life will change into amazing and unexpected ways!

Some of the characteristics of these three are;

Anxiety:
  • Worried about what’s coming.
  • A belief that things are not going as expected.
  • It turns on the flight or fight response. You think you’re in danger.
Depression:
  • A strong feeling of sadness about a major event in our lives, in most cases already happened.
  • Not being realistic, or a positive thinker, being rather gloomy in all our ways.
  • Being suicidal or having suicidal thoughts. Not self-worthy.
Sadness:
  • Can still enjoy pleasurable activities.
  • Being gloomy, but not for a long period of time.
  • Don’t feel like have to fight or flight away, but instead feels secure about his self-worth.

My take on the difference between them is very simple, depression is intensely prolonged sadness and anxiety is more like being worried with the feeling of sadness to some extent.

Another thing I’ve noticed is that we can talk about depression for something in the past (most cases), sadness is the feeling of something that is more immediate, (in the present) and anxiety is usually about things (or an illusion of things) that are yet to come in our lives, the future.

Not to brag with you, but I think this is another way we can detect more accurately in which department we are that I haven’t seen in this neighborhood.

Even with this knowledge, I’ll recommend don’t diagnose yourself with any disorder because most of the people don’t know the real meaning of their feelings and can misinterpret them. I’m just giving you some of the best info that I can gather with my insights and knowledge so you can beat depression in a more natural way.

 

Why I’m so Depressed?

feeling depressed, causes of depression

I know how difficult can be when you’re dealing with everything that’s going in your life and top of it feeling depressed, I mean, I get it, life is hard and seems to be getting harder everyday, but it is even harder if we see it through the lens of depression, anxiety, and sadness.

When you don’t have any reason, like a big trauma, or the loss of someone close to you it is common to have this question, and having the feeling of sadness for these particular reasons is common too, even healthy. But what is not healthy is to have this intermittent feeling of depression that comes and goes when least expected…

So Why I’m Feeling Depressed You Ask?

The main cause of depression in a teenager may vary, but neither you, I or a specialist can’t answer that particular question because no one really knows what is the real cause of depression. What I can do is giving you the main causes of depression, in that way you will be better equipped to answer it by yourself.

Main Causes of Depression

Genetics. It is depression common in the branches of your genealogical tree?

* Some illnesses. Depression can be sparkled in our lives by another completely different medical condition.

Abuse. Sexual abuse is the most known, but also physical and emotional abuse in the past can develop depression sometime in the future.

Death. Fear of our own dead, dead or loss of someone we love is a well-established factor for being depressed.

* Drugs. Not just the abuse of the illegal drugs, but some medicaments “legal drugs” can increase the chances of developing depression for a period of time.

* Being Excluded. By being excluded from our family, being fired, getting divorced. I mean losing or not getting into something that we care can be really painful.

* Low Self-Confidence. Carrying a low way of thinking about yourself will eventually lead you straight away to the path of the most high-quality feeling of depression.

Maybe you can argue with me if I’m right with the last one that it’s a vicious cycle. You could be depressed and then develop low self-confidence or by having low self-confidence we could be inviting depression to come into our mind and soul.

You could develop depression for one of these particular causes or a mix of them. When you identify the root cause of why you’re feeling this way you’ll hopefully know what action to take in order to stop feeling depressed because the solution will unfold naturally to you.

In the near future, I’ll be talking more in-depth about why depression appears as an uninvited guest in our lives so stay tuned.

What is Depression?

Crying with depression

In order to solve any problem, we need first to identify it and then, know more about it. The same rule applies to Depression.

According to the Cambridge English Dictionary.

1- Depression: the state of feeling very unhappy and without hope for the future.

2- Depression: a mental illness in which a person is very unhappy and anxious (=worried and nervous) for long periods and cannot have a normal life during these periods.

The American Psychiatric Association defines depression as “the cause of feeling sadness and/or a loss of interest in activities once enjoyed”.

And according to Urban Dictionary; when you’ve felt like the world has been against you for so long, that you’ve become numb to everything.

For the sake of not repeating everything online or not just copy and paste all the definitions from what it is depression I’ll say that there is something common in all the definitions, and that is the “low state feeling”. Under the influence of anxiety and depression, we feel like we don’t have any worth to others and ourselves.

We recognize sadness when we see it, and this is one of the major signs of depression. More than sadness when we are in a depressive state it affects our way of feeling, thinking and how we act and interact in social situations, that’s why it is considered a mental disorder.

To better understand what is and how to fight against depression.

Let’s list some of the most known signs of depression.

* Restlessness

* Irritability

* Anxiety

* Sadness

* Fatigue

* Desire to suicide

* Eating disorder (loss of appetite or overeating)

* Lack of focus

We all can agree that the most powerful sign from this list is the desire to suicide. When you are feeling like taking a risk that put your life in danger for the sole reason of taking that risk not valuing or acknowledging that your life is worth more than losing it, you can be almost sure that you are depressed.

Thank God that there are treatments, supplements, information, psychological expertise, and even food and communities to help you in your fight against depression.

My advice to you is to seek out help, move and do something about to fix it, but don’t keep fighting this feeling alone, because there are a lot of people that don’t want to see you in this situation, including me!

11 Best Bible Verses to Fight Depression

bible verses to fight depression
Some bible verses to fight depression

Even if you don’t consider yourself a Christian, I know for sure that you ended up here because you were searching some inspiration against depression. Let’s face it, feeling depressed all the time it’s overwhelming and we need all the help we can get from all different sources.

I want you to know that you’re not alone in this fight and even God himself has left you his prescription against depression and anxiety in the Bible.

In this message, I want to give you some of the most powerful and inspiring Bible verses to fight depression.

Revelation 21:4 – And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away.

Psalms 34:18 – The LORD [is] nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.

2 Timothy 1:7 – For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.

Proverbs 12:25 – Heaviness in the heart of man maketh it stoop: but a good word maketh it glad.

Isaiah 41:10 – Fear thou not; for I [am] with thee: be not dismayed; for I [am] thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.

Matthew 6:34 – Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.

Psalm 42:11 – Why, my soul, are you downcast?  Why so disturbed within me?  Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and my God.

John 16:33 – These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.

Psalm 43:5 – Why are you downcast, O my soul? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God: for I shall yet praise him, who is the health of my countenance, and my God.

Psalm 55:22 – Cast thy burden upon the Lord, and he shall sustain thee: he shall never suffer the righteous to be moved.

1 Peter 5:6-7 – Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time: Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.

Whenever you feel down, depressed and with a lot of anxiety, just trust that there is someone who really cares about you, trust in these words because they are meant to those people that are righteous and hope that things are going to be better.

Personally, I love these bible verses against depression, because they are easy to remember and to apply, will help you a lot through all your life to keep them in your mind and get comfort whenever you’re feeling depressed.

About Teenager Fighting Depression

Welcome to TeenagerFightingDepression.com

How Depression is Ruining the Lives of Millions

My name is Isandy Díaz and trough my life with some of my closest friends I have seen how depression have turned their lives to the worst. Me as a friend and looking for ways to cheer up and make them feel better to get a lot of knowledge and some effective ways on how we can win against it.

By dealing with the depression of some of my friends, I also learned firsthand how people really feel and think under the influence of depression and what we should and shouldn’t do. Because there are things that are counter-intuitive in this delicate topic and a lot of misconception.

I know those stories about how life isn’t worth living and I know how a teenager feeling depressed can convince himself of even taking his life. But more importantly, I know what we can do with actionable steps on how to Fight Depression and Anxiety.

My Mission Against Depression

So why I’ve decided to become a warrior against Depression?

The feeling of not being worthy and loved in this world is one of the worst feelings we can get in our lives, and according to some studies there are 40 million people dealing with anxiety disorder, and this is just in the USA alone.

I believe things are worse than the stats are showing us and we as human beings are losing this war. If I can help at least 1 person to win the fight against depression then I’ll know that I’ve lived a life with meaning and purpose.

Teenagers have a lot of energy and love for living and have seen some of my friends giving up so easily on their dreams and their lives, was so heartbreaker to me that I decide to do something against it, I can’t see how depression is taking the lives of so many people and do nothing about it, anxiety and depression disorders are not going to win this war, not on my watch!!

My mission is to share my knowledge and encouragement on how we can fight against this disorder to eradicate it in this world. I believe it’s possible to live in a world where everybody feel is worthy enough to live a life with joy and happiness!

My Reasons to Create TeenagerFightingDepression.com

Don’t get me wrong, I know everybody can benefit from my knowledge, but to be honest, my experience is with teenagers because is with them that I have tested knowledge and gather my experience with some amazing results.

Being a teenager nowadays is usually about social status above everything and today more than ever is easy to follow the road to depression and anxiety, I really think that things are worse than that and teenagers have the worst part dealing with depression, because the teenager phase on our lives is about setting the grounds and bases for our character and personality and being depressed is not a healthy way to see the world and ourselves.

The reason for “Teenager Fighting Depression” to exist is because;

A) I want to help people fighting and winning against depression.

B) I have some knowledge and experience on how to get the winning hand against depression and want to share it.

C) There’s a big need for this kind of expertise in the world.

D) My life will be more meaningful and successful if I’m helping others with this mental and emotional disorder.

Wish you the best,

Isandy Díaz S.
TeenagerFightingDepression.com