4 Positive Qualities Most People Fighting Depression Ignore They Have

Positive qualities & fighting depression

While I’m not saying depression it’s a good thing to be proud of because it isn’t, it’s a mental illness and it should be treated.

But, what I’m saying is that the people who fight against depression usually haven’t realized they have some of the most extraordinary qualities we can have as human beings and don’t even know because they have the condition of thinking they’re worthless and seeing themselves broken without remedy.

Depression is tricky, it turns you into a bad narrator of your own story. And you get an idea of how bad you have it when you start to lie with the excuse of “I’m just tired of” being this partially truth.

To lift up your spirit and show you that things are better than you think, I want to share with you what I’ve found are some of the best qualities depressed people have that if they wouldn’t have to fight depression every day, they could change the world!

Most People Fighting Depression Have These Positive Qualities

Introversion

In a world full of extroverted people and with a society that encourages being extroverted as the “way to go” for everything related to success and high-status people, there’s no wonder that introverts are labeled as being something negative. Nothing further from the truth!!

There’s a lot of misconception and myths surrounding this one. Like they don’t like to talk, it’s just that they need something meaningful to say and don’t like to talk for the sake of just filling the empty space with talking for no reason.

Depressive people have the tendency of expressing this kind of behavior too!

Another common misconception is that they don’t like people and prefer to be alone all the time. They do like people, but valuable people who are trustworthy and respect others with healthy boundaries and it’s with this kind of people they love to interact with.

Introverts are comfortable with their own thoughts and they just need to recharge themselves with a quiet time being alone.

To learn more about the misconceptions and why being an introvert is something positive read 10 Myths About Introverts from Creativity Post.

High Sensitivity

Having a lot of susceptibilities or a “thin skin” is sometimes what makes depressive people what they are… depressed. Sometimes you have a reason and you know what it is that is making you feel depressed, and sometimes you can’t explain with reasons why you’re feeling like crap all the time.

It is very likely that when you cannot explain “why now”, is because you have been exposed to a negative interaction, thought or feeling so minimal that it wasn’t perceived on your radar. That’s why you take time to rationalize this feeling to make the most sense of it and it’s frustrating when you don’t find that reason.

Depression makes you feel everything darker and worthless but sometimes somedays something good happens and you feel really good and excited for at least a short period of time. And this happens so suddenly that you cannot control it.

I just had defined you how highly sensitive persons usually react to negative and positive stimulus, the only difference with depression it’s that fills your mind with more of the negative stuff. And have a lot of hard work learning to fill it with more of the positive stuff.

This one brings me to the next item on my list…

Empathy

Empathy is caring, empathy it’s the quality of being able to wear the shoes of others and know what they’ve been through in their lives. And usually depressive people see their depression as being a burden to their families, friends, and anyone that cross path with them.

The meaning of this is that you truly care how others feel, and because you truly care without fakery, your heart gets broken everytime you make (or even just think of making) them feel bad because you’re feeling the way you feel.

To simply explain the difference between High Sensitivity and Empathy is that the former just take how you feel and the latest takes this and how others feel too.

Everybody has a certain level of empathy unless NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) is present. But people suffering from depression have proved me countless times they have developed a strong sense of empathy. They’re just focusing it in the wrong way.

But wait a minute. I feel like being dead on the inside, unable to feel any emotion at all. What about me?

Then I’d say that you’ve mastered denying your negative and positive feelings! In Psychology Today there’s an article called “A Link Between Empathy and Depression” that will help you to understand better what I’m talking about.

Intelligence (being smart)

I believe it is Buddhism that teaches it’s practitioners that “emotional suffering inspires us to seek wisdom and understanding on the meaning of our existence”

Well, depressive people are usually seeking some sort of explanation on “why them.” Why they’re suffering like there’s no tomorrow… eventually the introspection intended to understand their feelings better and how things work, leads them to become wiser.

But this is a spiritual approach to this matter. In a more scientific approach, some studies show the results of smart people losing their cognitive thinking (smartness if you wish) as a side effect of depression, you know, like the ability to concentrate in any given task.

There are mixed results from different studies, and let’s not forget that the environment, childhood and character development will have an important say of someone becoming depressive over time.

But I can say by knowing a lot of depressive teenagers who are straight A’s that they are not faking their intelligence, they just happen to be experiencing life in a darker way because of their condition.

Click the link to learn more about the connection between intelligence and depression.

Conclusion

Besides having depression as a mental illness and identifying yourself as someone depressive you shouldn’t take this as your whole identity and remember that there are more inside you than just “being broke”, feeling like an “empty shell” and “falling into the abyss”

Being under the influence of any mental illness or a big trauma will give you a hard time realizing other qualities you might have. The ones that are positive, the ones that need nourishment from you because will lead you to happiness and joy in life.

I cannot say which ones you have, but I can hope that some of these resonate with you because I have learned by experience supporting friends with depression that most of them have these positive qualities and I can bet that with a little introspection, you’ll find that some of them – if not all – always has been part of you too.

The 11 Most Common Kinds of Depression That You Should Know About

I know it’s easier to recognize if you have depression than to know which kind of depression you’re having. To know if you’re depressed you just need to know what is depression and look for the common symptoms in the last two weeks.

To get a better idea of the kind of depression you’re having I’ve compiled a list defining the most common depressive disorders with their unique trait that makes them so particular and different from the others.

11 Most Known Kinds Of Depression

Major Depressive Disorder (MDD)

Kind of depression

When we talk about clinical depression we usually refer to MDD. Major Depressive Disorder It’s also known as “Major Depression” or just depression because is the most known and one of the most common.

This depressive disorder usually comes with a loss of interest in normally enjoyable activities and hobbies, lower self-esteem, and self-confidence in our own abilities to function as normal human beings, a blue state of being (low energy, fatigue), and sometimes emotional pain without a clear cause.

This kind of depression leads you to believe that the situation is 10x worse and 10x bigger than what actually is. From there comes the feeling that we are hopeless and can’t do anything to fight it and cure it.

Persistent Depressive Disorder (dysthymia)

Kind of depression

Dysthymia is much less intense than other kinds of depressions but has long-lasting symptoms, hence the name of “persistent depressive disorder”.

PDD is quite tricky because people who suffer it don’t realize they have it and think that depression and pessimistic thoughts are just part of their personalities and characters.

This is usually the case because they live day by day as normal people do, but a little more depressed than normal people and don’t realize they have a depressive disorder, so they don’t communicate to family, doctors or friends.

Avoidance of stressful situations and fear of failure are common in mild degrees of dysthymia. In cases more severe, people tend to use a self-defense strategy of insensitivity in a long-term period, meaning they don’t get the same thrill of happiness of daily joyful activities.

The nature of PDD is to be subtle and kill slowly but surely.

Atypical Depression (AD)

Kind of depression

It’s called atypical depression because doesn’t have the typical symptoms of MDD or any kind of depression, easy to figure it out.

The atypical feature of the AD is that has a high mood reactivity. This means that when something positive happens or has a potential to happen they suddenly will see the day brighter and the mood improves faster than normal, when the positive situation ends, they usually turn again to a blue state of being, seeing everything grey without meaning.

The AD usually begins in teenagers and is the portal gate to more serious personality and anxiety disorders of all kinds, such as; bipolar disorder, borderline personality disorder, and obsessive-compulsive disorder just to mention a few.

Cyclothymic Disorder (Cyclothymia)

Kind of depression

Cyclothymia means “to go on cycles between your mood“.

If any major depressive episode has been present but there are other common symptoms of depression and chronic states of feeling blue and then feeling shining, then there’s a high chance that person has cyclothymia.

A lot of mood swings is the main symptom of this one but with less severe effects than bipolar I and II. In fact, It’s considered a subcategory of bipolar disorder.

It is rare to find this kind of depression among people, but maybe you could identify some of your friends that you generally think they are bipolar, but don’t show as many signs and symptoms of suffering from a major depressive disorder.

Bipolar Disorder (Manic Depression)

Kind of depression

The swings of moods are much more dramatic than cyclothymia and have more effect on their energy and ability to focus on any given task (attention-deficit disorder). The high and lows are known also as “mania and depression”.

People with manic depression can’t control their fast mood-shifts and in most cases don’t realize the dangers of being too “high” or being too “blue”. As a result of not controlling their highs, they tend to take unnecessary risk, get irritable and behave impulsively. When feeling too low, even deciding what to eat can be an overwhelming task.

Hallucinations and delusions are a common trait too and this is why suicidal thoughts are closely related to bipolar disorder. It is believed that the psychosis is a reflection of their out of order mood.

Bipolar disorder usually gets worse if it isn’t being addressed to being cured.

Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD)

Kind of depression

Exclusive for girls!

Once a month when a woman is in the second half of her menstrual cycle she has the chance of getting depressed if she suffers from PMDD.

Everygirl may experience their menstrual cycles different but I (as a guy that I am) have noticed that the common factor of every girl is their mood swings, if the stress of being in menstruation is combined with other kinds of stress or anxiety, it’s very probable that will develop this kind of depression.

Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)

Kind of depression

In winter there is an increased number of people with fatigue, irritability, and weight gain. These people are experiencing with more intensity the anxiety of the season because of the lack of sun there it is.

While is normal that we may feel a little down due to a cold environment cause there’s not enough sun in winter, experts started to diagnose this “SAD” because of the increased reports of depression on winter and then the absence of the symptoms on spring.

It seems that some people need more sunlight than others due to their sensitivity, lack of vitamin D or something else that is still unknown. If you’ve been diagnostic with SAD, don’t worry, hopefully, it just lasts for this season…

Psychotic Depression (PD)

Kind of Depression

Hallucinations and delusions are a must in this type of depression as everybody should know.

These symptoms of psychosis should happen only while a major depressive disorder episode or a bipolar disorder is active, otherwise, it should be diagnosed as schizophrenia.

After several episodes of major depression is very likely that the psychosis will do his appearance and after the first time of someone being a victim of it, it will keep reappearing making more difficult to be cured and making people don’t believe in their senses and thoughts.

The most common delusions are those of being disease, feeling guilty, being persecuted by an extranormal entity, and being punished for something they believe have to pay some kind of moral price.

Peripartum (Postpartum) Depression (PPD)

Kind of depression

It may happen in first time parents within the first year of the newborn baby and can last for weeks to months.

The symptoms present in this disorder are extreme feelings of anxiety and sadness, the hopelessness of not knowing how to take care of the baby, fears related to hurting the baby by accident, dramatic changes in eating and sleeping patterns, even fatigue and irritability may do their appearance.

By the way, this one is not exclusive to women, it can happen to the father too!

Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

Kind of depression

Being exposed to some type of trauma such as warfare and sexual abuse, or being the victim of it is the trigger of this disorder.

In kids (because of their innocence and high level of sensitivity) even verbal abuse can develop in the future a PTSD. A teenager with PTSD is more likely to attempt suicide and do self-harm.

I cannot prove it, but I believe that some urban tribes like “emos” which self-harm themselves were born because of the widespread habit of creating trauma on others; ie. bullying.

The most common causes of this disorder are rape, child abuse, life-threatening illness (cancer and HIV on top of popularity), war-related trauma and trauma related to pregnancy.

Situational Depression

Kind of depression

Also known as the “adjustment disorder” or “stress response syndrome”. It’s a lot more common than major depression and its main characteristic is the depressive mood for dealing with a stressful situation.

The common symptoms of the adjustment disorder are an overwhelming sadness, being nervous and worried about facing the situation or event that is causing this depression. If the symptoms are still present after a long time the situation has passed, then it can be considered as the stepping stone to bigger problems.

Usually don’t need any treatment because the event (bad breakup, losing a job, the death of someone close to us, etc) pass and this depression pass with it.

Conclusion

All types of depressive disorders affect how we think, feel, and act, which leads us to feel like a heavy burden placed upon our shoulders to do the normal day to day activities. Some of course with worse and more extreme effects than others.

What I can say by consensus is that each one of us wants a fulfilling successful life and being able to contribute to our society in some sort of way that we may choose. For that, we need to be in our top mental and emotional capacity, and this is where any kind of depressive disorder and mental illness wrecks and brakes our efforts.

If you are willing to give the good fight against depression I’ll encourage you to find the best ways to fight it and use at least one method that you feel comfortable using and your mood will slightly improve every day.

One day when the dragon has been slain you’ll be able to look back the huge challenge it was back then, and how brave you really are because you were able to overcome it by fighting and succeeding little by little every day.