The Root of Wisdom & How it Helps Battling Depression

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Doing a quick search on Google I found the following definition for wisdom: the quality of having experience, knowledge, and good judgment; the ability to discern inner qualities and relationships.

Before moving on in giving my own point of view about wisdom and how it helps to battle depression, I want to cite several interesting angles for understanding what is wisdom.

“From the Latin Sapientia, it relates to intelligence, in the opinion, common sense, prudence, knowledge, science, philosophyWisdom is commonly used to describe the character of that which is reasonable, or to exercise moderation in desires.”


“… To know and love one other human being is the root of all wisdom.”

Evelyn Waugh, Brideshead Revisited

Wisdomsapience, or sagacity is the ability to think and act using knowledge, experience, understanding, common sense and insight. Wisdom is associated with attributes such as unbiased judgment, compassion, experiential self-knowledge, self-transcendence and non-attachment, and virtues such as ethics and benevolence.

“The root of wisdom is to fear the Lord, and the branches thereof are long life.”


When we see someone doing or talking about something, we intrinsically can tell if that person knows, has at least an idea, or completely lacks keenness of mind in the matter. We already have a general understanding of what wisdom is.

Reading the quotes and definitions above, however, will make you have a better grasp of what I’m about to tell you.

Our way to learn things and understand them better is by relating them with something we already are familiar with. The new connection with the “dot” we know, would be the interpretation of the new “dot” we are trying to learn. (That’s how we have learned to speak our native language BTW).

Knowing this, we could try to connect those little dots and find out a deeper insight about wisdom.

Several keywords come to mind when we talk about it, for instance; Logic, precaution, a clear mind, good judgment, acumen, fear of God, awareness, and even empathy.

To measure good judgment, to be aware of something, and develop a clear mind, we need to compare it against something and that would be an objective reality (the truth). Without this correlation, measuring wisdom would not be realistic and become pointless.

At this time, I’m comfortable defining wisdom as; the ability to perceive something for what it really is in an emotional, physical, and practical spectrum.

The root of all wisdom would be something like – with that definition in mind – the skill to perceive and connect seemingly unrelated and veridical dots that give us a new interpretation of reality with the possibilities that could match the objective reality.

Why Is Important to Seek Wisdom?

We have defined wisdom by contrasting what we know and believe to be real with the objective reality that surrounds us. Remember, what we think is real could be just a manifestation of the lenses we have and hence, could be too inaccurate – even totally opposed – with what is real.

The way of the wise one would be learning to identify the difference between its subject reality against the objective reality. How the dots can be connected to what is real and then acting of that truth.

If someone is able to change its perspective about something despite how he sees it, that would be called a wise man. The importance of having wisdom is because it gives us a wide perspective on things that causes us to open up our minds so we can find and accept the true meaning of something based on facts.

How Being Wise Helps Battling Depression?

Don't give up. Great things take time.
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I would like to clarify that I’m not referring that the mere fact of being knowledgeable about depression will make you able to cure it as a snap with a finger.

Accurate and truthful knowledge is great to have under the bell but is only part of the equation.

Depression tries to blur our judgment by giving us a lense of bitterness, discouragement, misery, grief, and sadness by making us feel that things are worthless despite having the knowledge of what’s right and beneficial to us.

One of the strong reasons for dealing with depression it’s so hard is because it attacks the way we see things (our ability to connect the dots accurately) and the motivation to act on doing something.

It’s quite a problem to live with depression and any little improvement is kindly appreciated. The problem is that everybody experience depression in it’s own unique way.

This is why the best person who should know what is best for yourself is yourself. Things get harder however when our minds have roamed for too long in the shadow realm.

For too many reasons we should seek wisdom and for somebody suffering from any form of depression, it’s paramount to become wiser because even though if he/she cannot see exactly how things would work out, being wise will let you see what needs to be done to get the tools, support, and resources for starting to see and reach that light at the end of the tunnel.

Despite how hard is to fight depression whether you are free from it or you are grinding to the teeth against it, the way to solve all kind of problems is working on becoming wiser every day.

There is a quote that resume this insight very well…

No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it”

Albert Einstein.

AA’s 12 Steps to a Successful Recovery from Alcoholism (Analysis)

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From Syda Productions

Being an alcoholic is firmly tied with feelings of sadness and depression, what an alcoholic is trying to do – in a way – is shutting down the brain so the emotional pain his living with, becomes more bearable and in that way gets to be “happier”

Problems – bigger problems – arise when alcohol consumption cannot be controlled and is the first or only response to all life’s complications. We could identify alcoholism in this way.

AA is a world-renown organization that helps people overcome their addiction to alcohol.

The way they do it is with the completion of 12 steps that serve as checkpoints in the journey of achieving a free-alcoholic life.

Pretty simple to understand, I must say, it’s way too simple of a concept considering the success AA is having since 1935 in all over the world.

But why? How is it that in 12 steps someone can be liberated from being alcoholic?

Which Are The AA 12 Steps? Why They Work so Well?

You can visit and review the 12 steps and their 12 traditions on their official website.

Another resourceful and trustworthy website in which you can learn a lot about this organization and alcoholism generally is this one.

These are the 12 steps:

  1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol—that our lives had become unmanageable.
  2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
  3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
  4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
  5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
  6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
  7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
  8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
  9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
  10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
  11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
  12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

We have at least get to know in some way the step of “recognizing our problems, asking for forgiveness, and helping other people with this problem”

At first glance, we could say the reason for its success is that helps us establishing and keeping a deeper relationship with God. However, to understand how everything works, I’d like to give a thorough analysis of the AA’s steps and why they work remarkably well.

A Deeper Look Into The AA’s 12 Steps.

Let’s try to assign one or a few keywords to each step and from there give my own perspective of meaning, importance, positive effect, and/or the efficacy to improve the capacity of remaining and getting out of alcoholism.

  1. Problem Recognition – Only after we are been able to identify something as a problem, we can start looking for solutions to that problem. Otherwise, we are doomed to live with it for the rest of our lives.
  2. Awareness of God – We realize that there is a God with the power to restore us. This also implies that we recognize we are just humans and as human beings, we have flaws. Accepting that God can heal us from alcoholism makes us accept our human conditions and limits by default.
  3. Accepting God – By acknowledging that there is a God that can save us from alcoholism, (or any addiction or emotional/mental health problem) our next logical step would be welcoming his help by accepting him in our lives because he knows better.
  4. Looking in the Mirror – The need to been able to look at ourselves and recognize all our flaws is imperative. When we understand and recognize our wrongs is when we can start the process of healing. This one is very similar to the 1st step but somewhat broader and deeper.
  5. Confession – Not the kind of confession to a pastor that represents the authority of God (according to some religions). Confessing our wrongs in emotions, thinking, and acting directly to God, to ourselves, and to other people, creates a strong willingness inside us to change that for the better.
  6. Redemption – After putting our mistakes and faulty character traits in the table, we also start to expect for God to get rid of them.
  7. Humbly Asking God – I think it’s very important to denote the word humbly. We are not making a demand, we are not commanding or requesting with authority (as the Law of Attraction has taught us). We are recognizing our condition of being inferior to God and it’s Him in his power that restitutes us.
  8. A List of Transgressed Persons – This list is for us to plan and prepare ourselves to ask for forgiveness to those people we have hurt by being prisoners of our bad habits and harmful behaviors.
  9. Make Direct Amends – If no more injuries are made, we must make peace with those people. This can help to erase any long time grudge they could have towards you. This only should work if we are being sincere in apologizing with which previous steps help us preparing us.
  10. Continuation – This step’s purpose is to train our awareness at all times of our weaknesses. We’d be more conscious to admit we were wrong right there in the situation and would have more self-control whenever we feel we are going stray.
  11. Prayer – Opening and keeping communication with God by prayer is the way we can understand His will for us and develop the strength to abide by it.
  12. Practice and Preach – After following these steps we have a moral obligation to ourselves in continuing practicing our new mindset and the moral obligation to help others awakening to a new healthier lifestyle.


It’s curious to me that anybody who knows the AA’s 12 steps without being involved (by movies for example) usually doesn’t know how important is God and how much of an involvement He has in the whole process.

Reading and reviewing these steps as a whole, we can get to understand better the nuances at their core.

Acknowledge you need help, search and accept the help of God, have personal responsability of your faults, ask for forgiveness with humility, be alert, keep being close with God and help other people.

There is a lot of different ideas and threads to follow that I’d like to pursue sometime in the future about this topic, like how taking these steps with a group of encouraging people, makes a big difference in accomplishing the goal.

For the time being, I’ll conclude that the AA’s organization and their 12 steps work with an amazing success is because it helps in developing a stronger relationship with God, ourselves, and overall with people.

Gamification, a Tool to Beat Depression

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Some weeks ago I stumbled upon a certain word that grabbed my interest (and is still keeping it) that I didn’t know about but in a certain way already had used throughout my life.

I’m talking about “Gamification” which on a simple definition is just the “action to game” something.

Nowadays is very well used among online marketers in ads for us to engage in playing some sort of game so they can redirect us to the webpage and download what they are promoting there (which ironically tends to be an app for a game).

A clear and easy way to use a form of gamification is when we create a scoring system around the completion of certain activities to ensure we achieve some sort of bigger goal.

Let’s see it from another perspective.

By using educational gamification a teacher can use elements of a game to teach students while maintaining an improved sense of enjoyment and hence the engagement and learning/teaching experience will be more smooth and effective.

How to Beat Depression by Using Gamification

Beating depression is not something we can do “accidentally”, we cannot just go with our lives “BAU” expecting that in one day depression will just disappear (that’s pretty obvious, right?)

What is not so obvious is how to battle that depression if we cannot fully trust our minds.

I mean, where would we start? What can we do?

Being honest, I’m not an expert in using this tool of gamification but at least I know where you could start using it to stack the table in your favor against depression.

The one thing I would recomend is to use a list of the things you need to do in a day (and/or week) and assign some fair points to the tasks.

I’ve written about how to use lists before, you can go and check it out here:

Once you start rolling the days completing at least the bare minimum you could add some more difficult tasks to the list that can have (though little) a meaningful and positive impact in your life over time.

Doing it like this will like beating the game… the game or recovering back your life from the claws of depression.


There are more things to know about gamification and this technique (or way of thinking) is very deep. And I know this can sound too simple to use and be considered something effective to fight depression, but in fact, the way to apply gamification is very simple and I truly believe in making things simpler to understand.

Depression is not something that you can defeat overnight, it is well known that time will be necessary to heal this condition and improve your life, that’s why I think using gamification as a way to see this fight like a game you can win, could create a new perspective on how to deal with depression and lastly to succeed in the game.

How Does True Love Looks Like?


Several times I’ve talked about depression and anxiety, the things we need to focus on everyday to improve ourselves and how we are expressing self-care with these acts with respect and high moral values. But what I haven’t done enough is talking about self-love and neither about true love in a relationship to someone else.

Yesterday was Valentine’s Day and around this time we feel the necessity or sometimes the obligation to profess “love” towards our partners with gifts, love letters, Valentines cards, chocolates, flowers, special dates, etc…

On the other hand, people who aren’t in a relationship tend to fall into depression because they think something is wrong with them. I’d like to demonstrate here why Valentine’s Day is not that important to those that feel depressed about it.

Before that, let’s take a look at what love is.

What is Love?

♪ Baby don’t hurt me…

I’ll not go too deep into defining what love is because I think is not something we need to understand with logic but instead with our gut feelings, with our hearts.

One simple and clear definition of Love; a sense of affinity toward something or someone.

A great definition I believe! This one conveys that love is something we feel towards others because we sense that we can relate and open up our true selves. We can deposit our trust and be vulnerable.

Just for the sake of mentioning because I think is an interesting fact about love. Greeks in ancient times used seven words to describe the different kind of loves we can perceive and devote, these are:

Philautia -> Self-love

Storage -> Natural affection

Philia -> Friendship

Ludus -> Flirting

Eros -> Sexual and Erotica

Pragma -> Committed (Married)

Agape -> Unconditional (Divine)

As I’ve said, I’ll not go too deep about what love is (maybe will save it for another post). But hope this basic understanding and the simple definition I’ve just gave you here, will serve you well.

Now, I’ll give you my opinion about what is “true love”, and why if you are single you shouldn’t be depressed about Valentines Day.

When There’s True Love in a Relationship, Valentine’s Day is just Another Day

Valentine’s Day is good in the way to remind us that we need to keep in track, not lose the way of caring and showing the commitment to our partner, that we are interested in being with her/him.

All of this is very important because sometimes we can lose track and forget to nurture our love life, but the way we try to nurture a relationship is by an expensive date, a fancy gift or doing something big to show our significant others that we really love them. And this is not the right way.

I almost can bet someone hasn’t fallen in love with you because you gave flowers and chocolates in Valentines Day. Showing interest? Sure thing! But true love it’s hard to gauge or maybe cannot be measured, not sure about this statement.

What I have pretty clear is that what sets the difference in relationships that have love at its core between those that lack it, is the daily practice of being committed to our partner in the relationship.

The daily minimal and insignificant things that by standing-alone won’t make any difference, but when combined over certain amount of time, it makes all the difference.

It’s not about the intensity because there’s not an exact day in which you can say “I love you” but instead it’s about the consistency. Being genuinely consistent is more about believing there’s something over there with that person and you keep committed to that person and that relationship.

When the two of you do it, you can say there’s true love! And that’s why you shouldn’t be depressed about being single in Valentines Day.


Love is something we all can feel but sometimes cannot explain. Love is not something we need to understand with logic but instead feel it with our hearts.

By having a sense of affinity with your own self, you’ll end up accepting who you are and keep committed toward building a healthy relationship with yourself. And as a matter of fact, it will be the best thing to do before starting a love relationship.

Valentines Day is more about intensity not consistency which is where we can find true love. However, the trick of consistency and finding love, is being genuine with the interest and the actions taken to foster the relationship.

Your True Identity & The New Beginning Ahead!

Last year has ended, and a whole new year has begun. The loud music, parties, the food along with the alcohol has most probably ended for a lot of us by now. The time to go back to “the normal life” has already started and with the coming of a new year most people (pretty sure that at least 99.99 %) has some thoughts about starting something new and ending something negative in their lives. 

Well, I know that some people sometimes won’t recognize what they’re thinking about, but the truth is that with the end and the beginning of a year, we feel a little hesitant about what we’ve accomplished and what we want to achieve in our lives. By thinking in this way, we’re giving a little perspective of who we are and whom we want to be!

Your True Identity

By its definition on Wikipedia (in psychology’s terms); identity is the qualities, beliefs, personality, looks and/or expressions that make a person (self-identity) or group (particular social category or social group).

“A person’s identity is defined as the totality of one’s self-construal, in which how one construes oneself in the present expresses the continuity between how one construes oneself as one was in the past and how one construes oneself as one aspires to be in the future”.

Weinreich, Peter (1988) [1986]

Everybody knows what identity means but I wanted a valid definition to point out something about it. Looking at this definition and relating it with what I’ve said, we can rephrase this understanding as; at the end/start of a year we sense a cycle has ended and a new one is starting now. In this change of a cycle we give perspective to our qualities, beliefs, personality, looks and/or expressions.

Now, for those people who suffer from depression it can feel as a very negative experience because they usually think and feel bad about that if they think this way, then there must be something wrong with them.

So what do they need to do? How do they define their identity?

The New Beginning

The First Step to Take it’s Defining Who You Really Are.

First thing first, realize that your depression (or anxiety) is the one who wants to create confusion and lead you to thinking you are wrong. What I want you to understand is that thinking about who you are and finding your self-identity is a normal process, and is even more common when we are at this time of the year.

Another point I want to remark is that you really care about your identity, if you really don’t care, then why giving so much thought? This search for your true identity it translates in a new beginning in your fight against depression, maybe a new beginning of a business, a healthier lifestyle or even starting to write a book.

“A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step”.

Laozi, Chapter 64 of the Tao Te Ching.

It doesn’t matter when you’re going to start but what you want to accomplish must be aligned with your beliefs, qualities and personality. I know this could be hard, but in reality, you always need to start with the first step to begin your journey.

Going Deeper Into Depression

I get that depressed people can’t do anything without feeling… well, depressed. Or not feeling like doing it anyways. If this is the case in you, then depression is deeply rotted in your identity because it lead you to believe it is your true identity when you look at yourself.

Depression got this roots inside because it’s very tricky, believing that you can’t change you’re identity is another trick, a false belief created by it. To start a new beginning you’ll need to take responsability of defining (and redefining everyday) you’re true identity to erase the false depressed identity, keep committed to the identiy you’d like to have and everyday will become a little more your true identity.


Around this time we all make plans and set goals to better ourselves. We feel that a cycle is ending and a new one is beginning, so we perceive our lives must do the same. My advice will be then that we take the perspective of who we are and who we want to be, and align it with what we want to accomplish. Having in mind always that depression is not our true identity but something that wants to create confusion of who we really are and we can change the false identity created by depression.

The fact is that it doesn’t matter when we’re starting a new beginning. But what really matters is from where, and that place must always be who we are today and who we are going to become if we accomplish what we’ve set our mind to accomplish.

Hope all of this makes sense to you… Happy New Year!

The Ultimate Way To Get Through Depression

The other day I was reflecting on the importance of being blessed by God and how God delivers his blessings to people. And while I was researching about it I remembered a Psalm that I knew long ago.

Psalm 1:1-3

1 Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful. 2 But his delight is in the law of the LORD; and in his law doth he meditate day and night. 3 And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper.

There’s no doubt for me that the best way to find a cure for depression is being grateful for the things that we have in life. And that’s exactly what depression wants you to not feel. Depression wants you to see everything in your life darker, pointless and hopeless. Looking at your life and everything that surrounds it in this way, won’t let you ever be grateful for anything that happens to you.

Getting Through Depression

How Can I Become Grateful, When I Feel So Depressed?

When dealing with depression, anxiety, and any other mental illnesses we need to keep in mind that;
– There isn’t always a reason (or at least you cannot find it) to feel down
– It’s not for the sake to seek attention
– Nobody seems able to help you
– It’s not something to be embarrassed about or ashamed of
– You can’t just “get over it”
– Nobody seems to understand
– It’s not about being lazy
– Your emotions are too strong to bear them
– It’s not easy
But knowing and keeping this in mind doesn’t mean that we can’t find one little thing to feel grateful for. Whenever negative thoughts try to invade you can say to yourself “at least I’m giving my best”
This is the conscious mental effort you need to start doing to get through depression.

The Ultimate Way To Get Through Depression

Go back to the top and read the Psalm 1:1-3 once again. I want to share my insights on this one and tell you why I think is the ultimate way to get through depression.

Psalm 1: 1

With the first verse, we can easily understand that we become those we hang out with. God gives his blessing to those who are not wicked and don’t walk in the ways of the wicked. With this one we can refer to;

“Tell me who you walk with, and I’ll tell you who you are.”

― Esmeralda Santiago

Psalm 1:2

Jesus Christ resumes the Law of God in two; 1- You shall Love God among everything else and 2- you shall love your neighbor as yourself.

Reflecting on these laws day and night and learning to follow them in everything we do is a delight for the people who live in a righteous way. These are the people that God give his blessings in everything they do.

Psalm 1:3

Being blessed by God will set up prosperity and abundance. That our leaf shall not wither means that our deeds don’t get dry but instead are full of life and joy for others to comfort their souls when they see it.


The conclusion that I get is that by following God and the righteous way he wants for us, he will transform the environment of our soul into a healthy, happy and joyful environment.

Being grateful will become in us as our natural state no matter what we’re facing at the moment. There will not be any room for depression when we are blessed by God and we know that God is with us because we follow his commandments.

What People With Depression Wish Others To Know About Depression

Some people live and don’t have the intention to walk out the phase of not talking and asking for help because whether they think they can manage their depression or they deny they have it. Whatever the reason, the point is they don’t talk about their low mood or talk just with a really close friend.

In this post, I want to share some of my personal insight about how depressed people see and perceive depression as best as I can.

To do this in the mindset of someone suffering from depression, there are at least two main things that people with depression wish others to know about depression. One is they cannot control their feelings, thinking, and the sense of worthlessness and the second is that they can’t find a reason or the logic on why they feel the way they feel.

Knowing Depression From Outside

Knowing Depression From The Outside By Defining It From The Inside

Depression is being in an eternal existence of beating yourself up for just being alive and wasting it bit by bit every single day. Beating yourself up and not grateful for all the good things in your life because you just can’t appreciate life.

Depression is like having a distant sense of the person you used to be before the darkness invades your mind and soul taking control of your whole being, and as time continue to pass the distance grows and grows making you lose sight of the things you felt. Forgetting how it used to be yourself is like being in another life. Depression is being unable to summon the energy to fight and thrive against the demons lurking around the darkness. That little energy you have is depleted in fighting off the depression and that’s why you can’t go through the day.

Depression is being in an everlasting feeling of disappointment in yourself. Depression is being let down, by every person that surrounds you and by every interaction you have because you cannot feel anything else inside you. Depression is knowing with the reasoning that you are worthy and yet not being able to feel it as being a truth. You know you have a lot of potential but cannot unfold it in your life.

Depression is the struggle being able to look at yourself in the mirror or even think of looking at yourself in the mirror because it’s just too difficult to see your face and not be absolutely enraged by it.

Depression is wearing the fake face mask of smiling and laughing because you don’t want to become that person that everybody feels pity about and always brings everyone else mood down. Depression makes you hate yourself because you feel like ruining every single good thing in the life of other people who interact with and relate to you in any way. This is another reason why depressed people prefer isolation instead of building relationships.

Understanding and knowing depression like this will hopefully clear a lot of misunderstanding on why teenagers and people with depression in general act and feel in a certain way.

How Moral Values Fight And Cure Depression

Being a teenager means that someone is not yet fully developed its maturity, and the character while it has grown and starting to take form, we know it needs to reach its completion too.

In teenagers and children, it is very important to impress the meaning of why we need to adopt moral values in our lives. Without them, society could not sustain in a civilized world and communities will destroy themselves as soon as the moral values disappear from it.

Some of the most common known moral values are:

  • Responsibility
  • Perseverance
  • Honesty
  • Respect
  • Discipline
  • Generosity
  • Acceptance
  • Integrity
  • Compassion

Now, having these values integrated into our way of thinking and way of conducting ourselves in the world is better known as having a “Moral Compass”.

A Moral Compass is what helps us differentiate the good from the bad and we only can have it if we follow the rules of this game. Maybe most people cannot see it as clear as I’m telling you but I think these rules of the Moral Compass have been set by God himself with his commandment of “do unto others as you’d like being done to you”

Moral Values to Fight and Cure Depression

What Having A Moral Compass Really Means To Each One Of Us?

We already know that the Moral Compass is called this because it gives us a direction to follow by behaving with the moral principles comprehended. It’s the consciousness of doing good or bad, being right or wrong, walking in light or walking in darkness.

When you lie to someone about something (no matter the reason) how do you feel about yourself?

Would you be proud and see yourself as someone reliable by cheating on your significant other?

How would you feel if your friend or a relative find out that you took some money from him/her?

Deep very deep down, and I mean really deep down we all know that by doing these kinds of dishonest things we see ourselves as someone toxic and our self-esteem and self-confidence suffer dramatically. In other words, immoral people know what they’re doing is bad and hate what they see in front of a mirror.

Everything said here has been great and I hope you’re getting the idea… but how all of this can help me to fight and cure my depression?

How Moral Values Fight And Cure Depression

Probably now it’s really simple for some of you to see it, but I’ll finish the idea anyway.

By behaving in “the light” and doing the best we can do with our ability right where we are, in a certain way what we really are doing is following the God’s commandment of “do unto others as you’d like being done to you” hence you are loving your neighbor as much as you love yourself!

This is in the more external and societal way of speaking, now let’s see it in a more personal way.

Depression and anxiety is the condition that won’t let you follow this commandment because you think and feel like you’re not worthy of love. This is the upper hand it has over us and lastly, it is the triumph card too if we believe we’re not worthy.

The actual way that moral values fight and can cure depression is because when you behave with morality you’re creating the self-image of someone who values who it is! And this is of huge importance because by doing this our true self-confidence and true self-esteem skyrocket to whole new levels!

Even if you don’t feel and think that you’re a valuable person worthy of love and care you need to act as if you are (you really are) and setting a moral compass of righteousness will help you in developing the right mindset and the right emotions of worthiness, love, and care!

How To Get Out Of Depression’s Genjutsu

This term (Genjutsu) comes from Naruto and even if you’re not a fan of the series you probably have heard about it. A Genjutsu is something of the most basic things to understand in Naruto’s world. I won’t submerge you into complex things about it if you don’t know Naruto very well.

Let’s start then by defining what is a Genjutsu.

Illusory techniques (幻術 Genjutsu) are an advanced branch of ninja techniques (忍術 Ninjutsu) whose objective is to confuse the mind of the enemy by manipulating the chakra, that is, those techniques with which the user creates illusions.

A Genjutsu is known as a created Illusion to confound the enemy. Some common synonyms of Illusion are; Image, deception, fantasy, hallucination, misbelief, fallacy, mirage, etc…

I consider the word Genjutsu as a cool way to say “something is deceptive about this”. And I’m talking for almost everybody in the room by saying that I don’t like to be deceived and prefer the truth even if it’s hurtful most of the times.

I always like to dissipate the Genjutsu in my life and see things as they really are.

Real World’s Genjutsu Scenarios

I will now give you some examples of real-life cases in which a kind of Genjutsu is used toward someone you know or you and didn’t realize it at the time if you haven’t known the scenario with anticipation.

 1 – When someone knocks at the door selling you a special offer of one of the best products out in the market and he simply convinces you that this is something that you must have, and you buy it, but you actually don’t have a real need for it.

 2 – When a friend or acquaintance trying to convince you to do something (like lending some money) that you think it’s a waste of your time and energy (and/or money) because it won’t help them and won’t help you at all, but still you do it.

 3 – Having a relationship of love and care with someone who is “ideal” to be with you because she/he presents you all the traits you like in a partner and you give all your trust, love and care to that person believing that person feels the same for you. But it wasn’t that “ideal” person after all.

I can keep going almost endlessly putting scenario after scenario of Real-World Genjutsu examples but I think you already got the point and have enough amount of understanding to find and define some Genjutsus you’ve fallen for in your own life.

With that said, shall we proceed to how we can get out of Depression’s Genjutsu?

How To Get Out Of Depression’s Genjutsu

Getting out from the Genjutsu of Depression

The Genjutsu of depression will be then the set of beliefs and misconceptions that we think are the truth in us and are truly false.

With the set of beliefs, you know what I mean

  • I’m worthless
  • I’m not trustworthy
  • I don’t deserve to be happy
  • Nobody cares
  • What’s the point of living?
  • It doesn’t matter anyway
  • I feel empty

In the anime, there are 2 ways to get out from a Genjutsu, one is that someone else infuse a little chakra (life force) into us with a touch and the other is by realizing none of what we’re experiencing is real and mind-bend the fallacy we are under with a more accurate representation of reality.

In the real world then, the way we can get out of depression’s Genjutsu is by;

1 – Having someone who infuses into us a little of his “life force” by caring and showing us that the deception we are believing is not more than that, a deception.

2 – Doing our best effort to change our mindset and actually changing it to the right one. This is a great strategy anybody can have to beat depression but is the one that requires more effort and hard work from us.

Now, everybody knows that it isn’t that simple to kill depression in this way but will mean a lot and for someone under severe depression will do all the difference having someone caring and supporting them because they will find more easily the drive to change their mindset to get back their lives.


A combination of both ways, meaning that having someone who cares and giving our best all the time on thinking, acting and believing that we deserve to be happy is the best way to beat depression and getting out of its Genjutsu.

Also, remember that this is not a magical cure and won’t happen overnight, keeping this in mind is crucial. You have to do the work like anything meaningful and worthy in life.

How To Detect The Symptoms Of Depression At An Early Stage

We should already know what are the symptoms of depression but let’s do a quick recap anyways to keep our minds fresh with some of the most commons symptoms.

  • Inability to concentrate
  • Bad memory
  • Disinterest in doing any activity
  • Suicidal thoughts
  • Feeling sluggish all the time
  • Changes in appetite
  • Sleeping too much or too little
  • Feelings empty and hopeless
  • Being Sad

For a better more complete list, about the symptoms of depression, you can click here.

What you need to know is that everything that supposes a change in our behavior and mood needs to be checked and compared with how we usually are. But to be honest, when we’re having these symptoms it usually feels like we are already deep into a depressive state.

Meaning that we cannot use these ones as a way to detect depression in its more primal hatching state.

Detecting The Symptoms Of Depression In An Early Stage

Symptoms Of Depression and How to Detect Them in an Early Stage

In this case, I’m talking about the kind of symptoms and signs that usually go under the radar because they have the tendency of being meaningless and don’t suppose a real issue to the people who have it if it isn’t that frequent and intense enough.

You Get Bored Easily

Sometimes you are doing your things and going through the day smoothly and chilling but suddenly without a reason, you feel like you’re bored of whatever you are doing at the moment and feel the need of a rush of adrenaline, otherwise, you’ll be bored for the rest of the day.

A Lot Of Daydreaming

It’s not like it is bad, I consider myself as a daydreamer but the thing is that I daydream mostly on rhymes (when writing a poem for example) and how things are getting resolved for the better.

Daydreaming is like closing yourself into your mind and downgrading the awareness of your surroundings. If you daydream a lot and smile alone for a not external reason (like I do), people will find you to be crazy in a fun way and I think you’ll be okay.

Negative Frame of Thoughts
Why nothing good ever happens to me?

What you’re doing here is focusing on the negative things happening to you more than the positive, which is a propitious environment for depression to develop.

I know this is my fault.

How do you know? How can you be so sure? Taking responsibility for something bad you did is good but if you’re going to take just the half part of the equation and not try to solve it to the best of your ability then you’ll end up in a vicious cycle of beating yourself and seeking new things to beat yourself and just feel miserable

I’m a failure.

Frame this statement differently with this one “Am I a failure?” Instead of taking it as an affirmation try to apply the reversal mindset and look for reasons to negate the hypothesis of being a failure.


The simplest and more effective way to put all of this together I think is by saying that we need to be mindful of the way we think and the way we see ourselves all the time.

With this conclusion, on my personal note, I want to say that this has a lot to do with integrity, discipline and the honesty you have with yourself. All of this I will explain better in a later post, better to stay tuned.