Trust, Friends And Dealing With Depression

The other day I saw a tweet from MotivationalQuotes that says

The best thing in life is finding someone who knows all your flaws, mistakes, and weaknesses, and still thinks you’re completely amazing.

Which inspires me to think about trust, friendship and how those variables can affect depression in a negative or positive way. I even wrote something similar inspired by this quote and put it in an image posted on Instagram.

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Truly it is, you have to trust me on this one.

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To understand better the way I see this let’s start by giving you the definition of trustworthy and having friends when you are dealing with depression.

Trustworthiness and Friendship, How Can We Find It?

Trustworthiness is the value we give to someone we can rely on when we express the truth to them. A trustworthy friendship is then the capability of all people involved being true to each one inside that relationship.

Are you with me so far?… Good!

The first step to finding someone who is trustworthy to us is by raising our own standard of how we see ourselves. We need to stop lying to ourselves and be able to face what is true in us first.

Our way of thinking must match our words and actions knowing always that we can make mistakes along the way, but by recognizing our mistakes flaws and weaknesses is the way we become humble as human beings and can accept other peoples flaws.

The reality is that it doesn’t matter how many friends do you have and how many people admire you and “love” you if you’re not keeping it real with yourself

The next step to find a trustworthy friend is by knowing who are the people around you who are real to themselves and are humble enough to see and accept the flaws of others.

Friends That We Can Trust And Can Help Us Dealing With Depression

A lot of people are concerned about meeting new people, having a big social circle and being loved by everybody, after meeting these expectations, then they try to keep their friends and finding someone trustworthy and caring enough to help them with whatever they are dealing in their lives. In this case, depression and anxiety.

But how many of those friends will help you fight depression and anxiety in your life?

I almost can bet that just a handful of those friends are willing to stay with you while you’re having a hard time and from those that stay with you just a few of them will know how to give you a real help with your depressive states.

It’s a fact that having a supportive and trustworthy friend helps a lot when we try to overcome something because by sharing our stuff we’re getting a relief of our burdens, and in that way, the weight of our soul gets lighter.

With everything said here, a quick definition of trustworthy friends that helps us deal with our depression could be something like; Those special people that walk with us in our lives carrying some of our baggages with them to help us arrive at a better destination.

Trust, Friends And Depression

How To Stop Being Sleepless and Start Winning Your Life Back From Depression

We already know some of the most common symptoms of being depressed.

  • Feelings of emptiness, despair, and sadness
  • Disinterest in relationships
  • Suicidal thoughts
  • Loss of interest in previously pleasurable activities
  • Insomnia or sleeping too much
  • Lack of concentration
  • Etc…

Among the most commons and known symptoms of depression, there are sleep disturbances; sleeping too much or too little.

I wanted to talk about this issue of being sleepless and give my thoughts on how to deal with insomnia. This means this post will be for those of you who are struggling with depression and difficulties of conciliating sleep.

Later, I’ll dedicate another post to talk about sleeping too much.

Being Sleepless And Depressed

Being Sleepless And Depressed

Insomnia is known as the difficulty of falling and staying in sleep. This sleeping disorder can trigger and give strength to a lot of other problems and issues like mood swings, lacking the energy to function on a normal day and even hallucinations in more extreme cases.

Your depression can be a lot harder to deal with if your physical and mental energy levels are depleted and you can’t have a full recovery through sleeping.

According to certain studies, approximately a quarter of the population have some kind of sleeping disorder and around 6% – 10% suffer from insomnia. And another interesting fact is that people with insomnia are at least five times more likely to suffer from depression and anxiety too.

The link between Insomnia and Depression it’s widely known, but it’s very likely that the different situations of the people suffering one thing will probably suffer from the other.

How To Stop Being Sleepless and Start Winning Your Life Back From Depression

Being sleepless it’s not something that will go off away overnight with a remedy, pills or therapy. They can help for sure but a whole change in your lifestyle is what you need to see long-lasting results and be able to cure insomnia and depression.

There are certain things we can do every day to stop being sleepless at night and have better rest by sleeping.

1- Your Internal Clock And Sleeping Routines

This refers to going to sleep every night at the same time and waking up at the same time too. If you would like to take a hot bath or do some kind of breathing exercise before that will help you to sleep, the better.

2- Sunlight And Light In General

Having enough sunlight through the day and decreasing the amount of light you receive at night you’ll put yourself in a better mood to sleep. In fact, it has already been proved that if you use a cellphone right before going to sleep, it will be harder to fall asleep.

3- Physical Activity And Being Healthy

Doing some exercise and become fit improves your night sleeping time. The quality of your recovery by sleeping also becomes better by having a healthy diet and pursuing a healthy way of living.

CONCLUSION

We need to understand and know that insomnia it’s not something that we can cure in a few days, but thankfully, if we put ourselves in the best condition to sleep, we eventually will become less likely to stay as being sleepless in a few weeks and that’s what I want you to take from this post I’m sharing with you.

Best Top #1 Advice To Depressed And Broken Hearts

If you recently have broken up, have been single for some time now, could not find a partner to enjoy life with and among this, you suffer from depression. Then you should keep reading because this message is for you!

Some time ago I’ve found the book of Jordan Peterson and the message he spread to people, teenagers and young adults in general. And I’ve found the message he gives to people is quite interesting and works nicely on all kind of situations in life.

In his book “12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos” (which I’ll just mention for now) he encourage us to be responsible for our own condition in all situations.

The 12 rules are the following;

  1. Stand up straight with your shoulders back
  2. Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping
  3. Make friends with people who want the best for you
  4. Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today
  5. Do not let your children do anything that makes you dislike them
  6. Set your house in perfect order before you criticize the world
  7. Pursue what is meaningful (not what is expedient)
  8. Tell the truth – or, at least, don’t lie
  9. Assume that the person you are listening to might know something you don’t
  10. Be precise in your speech
  11. Do not bother children when they are skateboarding
  12. Pet a cat when you encounter one on the street

From here, having all this information and putting it into practice in our lives we can experience a huge transformation on how we see the world. Knowing nonetheless, that is very difficult to do this while being depressed and anxious in life, that’s why you need to do an extra effort and doing this have much more value in your life!

But what all of this has to do with my love situation?

Fair question, bare with me, because I’m about to give you the best advice someone can give you when you have a broken-depressed heart.

#1 Advice To Broken Hearts

#1 Advice To Depressed And Broken Hearts

The thing is that when you have your heart broken you’re giving your power away to that person who broke it, and this is normal because during this process you feel betrayed and that nobody is worthy of your trust, attention, and love.

But in a way, by keeping this mindset, you too are making yourself unworthy of trust, attention, and love.

The best advice to solve this is to keep on bettering yourself in all areas of your life. It sounds simple, and it really is simpler than you think. What makes it difficult is the grief of losing that one person, the anger of being betrayed by him or her and the blame we do on that person.

I don’t want to sound too hard with you guys, but someone needs to tell you this, you need to take more responsibility for your well-being and not expecting to find happiness on someone else being in our lives because this implies that we cannot find happiness by being alone.

Another reason why I think focusing on being better than your former self is the best advice, is because inside a relationship you must be able to give love (not just take love and discharge all your problems on the relationship) and to be able to do it in the best way, you must be in your optimal condition, meaning that at least you can manage your depression on your own.

Conclusion

The best way to recover faster from depression and break-ups is to focus more on what you can do to better yourself. Doing this will lead you to gain back your power to manage your emotions and deal with this situation better.

I believe this is the best advice anyone can give you during a hard time like a breakup. And with enough time you’ll build for yourself the resilience, self-confidence, and character to overcome all the bad things life will throw you.

Speaking Out Your Depression

I remember when I was younger and I liked to watch the WWE and especially “The Rock” and “Stone Cold Steve Austin” it was like a curfew on Saturday at the time. I was thrilled by seeing them performing their special moves “Rock Bottom/People’s Elbow” and my favorite “The Stunner”, I’ll never forget Wrestlemania XVII.

Nowadays I don’t watch it and don’t have that passion anymore, but that’s OK because people can change what they like all the time and this is more common among kids and teenagers who are still defining who they are and what they want in life.

Even He Fought Depression

I don’t know about Steve Austin but you probably already know that he “The Rock” shared some inspirational words back in 2015 to people who suffer from depression and more recently, last month (March 2018) he opened up a little more about his battle and how he saved his mom from a suicidal attempt.

The reason I’m mentioning all of this is that at that time when I saw him as a wrestling hero at the ring I could never guess or imagine that Dwayne Johnson suffered and fought against depression.

Can you imagine someone that successful and wealthy suffering from depression as he, telling us he suffered? I mean, he is a living legend in the acting and wrestling world.

Had he never spoke out this issue to his fans, and society in general, no one would guess, but he revealed us his struggles and mood state with the saying “I was crying constantly” and “I was devastated and depressed”.

Something To Consider

Now, I want you to go back in time with your mind and imagine when he was younger and no one knew him and ask yourself these questions.

  • What do you think were his thoughts?
  • How about his attitude?
  • What kind of habits he had?
  • Did he surrender to his depressive state?
  • Did he believe that he can achieve something in life?

Now that he is successful and famous it’s easier to see in retrospective the kind of things he did that lead him to his success and I bet that it was not surrendering to his feelings, but actively taking action and creating the habits needed to become successful and wealthy.

Speaking Out Your Depression

Speaking out depression

Now, I hope not being too harsh on you because everybody experiences their depression differently and I can’t say if you have it better or worse than anybody else (including The Rock) but if he fought depression and he knew back then that this pain is real and he overcame it, then why couldn’t you do it too?

I know it’s hard, the pain it’s sometimes unbearable, the stress, the lack of energy… it’s just too much.

If it is too difficult for you to summon the energy to get up from the bed at mornings, to eat something, to take a shower, do the chores, or even brushing your teeth is an endeavor of titanic proportions for you, then you should start by speaking out.

Speak about your feelings, your thoughts, the things that are bothering you and let someone listen to your struggle because you need to take it out of your chest. We humans can take so much but we have a limit and need help from therapists, family, friends and a community of people who knows what you’re dealing with.

That’s what you need to learn and do, don’t keep this feeling to yourself and speak out about your depression because it feels a lot better to start addressing the problem and from there you’ll start to become more assertive in your fight against depression.

Conclusion

If you’re getting too much trouble, dealing with all of this, start by speaking out your problems and taking it out of your chest because speaking and being heard could be one of the best therapy against it (if not the best). This could mean with a therapist, a close friend or a supportive community.

Proceed to create the daily and weekly healthy habits that will help you getting away from depression, with a little time you’ll be able to see yourself with more self-esteem because you’re actively taking action to become better and with a little more time depression will be the shadow episode of your life!

Someday when you have destroyed depression and win back the happy and healthy life you deserve, you’ll be able to say what Dwayne Douglas “The Rock” Johnson is saying today;

“Depression is real, I have fought it, I have beat it, and I know you can too!”

Why A Depressed Mind Likes To Self-Sabotage All Efforts Against Depression And How to Fix It

Self-sabotage and depression

A few weeks ago I was reading a post about a show called Gilligan’s Island. It’s about Gilligan and a group of people stuck in an island, and how Gilligan in spite of all the planning and efforts of his peers to get out of there, unintentionally always find the way to sabotage everything.

In fact, the post is really interesting and I think you’ll enjoy reading it too.

The Problem With My Inner Gilligan

Why A Depressed Mind Likes To Self-Sabotage

Maybe you know self-sabotage as “getting it in your own way”, and haven’t realized that in this way you are not taking the proper actions to achieve your goals and think you are.

Your intention is to get better from depression, but by doing it your own way you probably convince yourself “I don’t think someone will understand me, and how I’m feeling” and with this in mind, you don’t seek help from a friend neither from a therapist.

That’s your mind sabotaging your intention of dealing with depression and anxiety. Another way to say it, that’s Gilligan sabotaging the way out of your depression island.

A depressed mind likes to self-sabotage because it feels more comfortable in the short term doing certain things than others. In the last example, we can say that you don’t want to seek help because it is more difficult talking to somebody about your issues than keeping silence.

Is that feeling of being comfortable now that drives our minds to look up for ways of dealing with difficult situations by taking the wrong but more comfortable decision.

〈In spite of Gilligan always making a mess of the plans to get out of the island he never got lockdown by his buddies because he was the most enjoyable to be around.〉

How to Fix A Self-sabotage Mind Against Depression

The thing is that we usually don’t know how we are self-sabotaging our efforts to achieve our goals and dreams, and that’s why we cannot solve it. But once we identify which are our self-defeating behaviors then we need to lock them up and keep them far away from our plans.

For us to be able of identifying our “inner Gilligan” we need to take responsibility for our decisions and actions in our lives and recognize that our wisdom (doing it our way) is not enough and most probably contrary of what we really want.

〈Gilligan’s friends felt comfortable around him and liked his character and personality that’s why when he wanted to participate in an idea he was accepted notwithstanding his record of wiping out all efforts before.〉

The way to fix a self-sabotage mind is to acknowledge that we don’t know better -but we are willing to learn- and going out of our comfort zone by locking up the self-defeating behavior. From there, we take the necessary steps to stop our mind on its mislead thinking patterns.

It may sound simple and easy to do, the fact is that is not easy, and under the influence of depression, the discipline needed to do this must be even greater.

When you are feeling comfortable with being curled in bed all day and know that there are things needed to be done then at least get out of bed and acknowledge yourself for this great deed because you’re starting to build the habit of getting out of bed when feeling depressed.

Lockdown Gilligan even if you enjoy him being around.

Conclusion

Every time you make a plan to try to escape the island of depression, your mind likes to play and repeat the same thinking patterns that put you in this position in the first place.

We must learn how to shut up our own wisdom (mind) and identify what is the truth to get the kind of success we are desiring from our efforts.

Ask God for wisdom, learn how you’re self-sabotaging and lock down your inner Gilligan if you ever want to achieve something in life!

72 Bad Things To Say To A Teenager Fighting Depression

Sometimes when parents really care about the well-being of their teenagers they try to help by giving some advice or saying something to make them feel better. They don’t mean to hurt you, but their good intentions expressed in the wrong words towards you as a depressed teenager can turn your depression into a bigger burden to deal with.

Some other times they seem like they really don’t care about depression because they show a total misunderstanding of the problem by saying things that convey the meaning of “I don’t believe this to be true”.

What we need to keep in mind is that some of these things can have a different meaning if we put it into the perspective of how much trust there is in the relationship. But in general, these are things depressive teenagers won’t like to hear.

Bad things to say to a teenager fighting depression

72 Things Not To Say To A Teenager Fighting Depression  

     1. Really?

     2. You just seeking attention.

     3. Depression isn’t real.

     4. Stop being such a baby.

     5. What do you even have to be depressed about?

     6. There are people worse than you.

     7. Why can’t you just be happy?

     8. In my times…

     9. It’s just in your head.

     10. You’re crazy.

     11. Just snap it off.

     12. You aren’t thankful at all.

     13. Try not to be so depressed.

     14. Just be grateful for what you have.

     15. What’s the matter with you?

     16. Why are you so depressed?

     17. Look things on the bright side.

     18. I don’t think this is a reason to be depressed.

     19. Just need to have more faith.

     20. When I was your age I…

     21. You don’t seem to be depressed.

     22. I thought you were fine

     23. Don’t wallow in that feeling.

     24. Maybe it’s your own fault.

     25. Keep yourself busy

     26. Be a man/woman.

     27. It’s not the end of the world.

     28. One day this will be something you will laugh at.

     29. You need to be more positive.

     30. I was depressed once too.

     31. Don’t feel sorry for yourself.

     32. You’re imagining that.

     33. You really think you have it that bad?

     34. I never imagined you are one of those people.

     35. You just need to pray!

     36. Who said life is fair?

     37. Is this is your way of punishing us?

     38. It’s not that bad.

     39. I know what you’re going through…

     40. Cheer up!

     41. It’s going to be ok.

     42. You should go to a poor country.

     43. This must be because you’re a sinner.

     44. You’re just being silly

     45. At least you have xyz…

     46. Have you tried taking a tea?

     47. Quit whining about how bad you have it

     48. Take your time.

     49. That can’t be happening.

     50. It always could be worse

     51. But today it’s a beautiful day to be happy.

     52. I have it worse than you.

     53. Make the decision to stop feeling like this.

     54. You only think about yourself.

     55. Just hang in there.

     56. Just relax.

     57. Probably you brought this to yourself.

     58. Just pull yourself together.

     59. Don’t worry too much.

     60. Do you feel better now?

     61. You’re just not trying to be happy.

     62. Things will get better!

     63. At least is better than…

     64. Take it easy.

     65. This shall pass.

     66. Other people suffer from hunger.

     67. If you were depressed as you say you wouldn’t be like this.

     68. Just don’t think about it. 

     69. Just get over it.

     70. It’s just you that…

     71. This is because you are lazy.

     72. It’s not a big deal.

Conclusion

There are hundreds and hundreds of negative things that shouldn’t be said to someone dealing with depression.

Knowing a few of the bad things not to be said should make us a little bit more aware of how to communicate with someone who is giving signs (or boldly saying) of being depressive and how everything just seems worthless…

Instead of saying something, it’s always better to not say anything and just be there giving valuable support, because, teenagers and people in general just want to take it out of their chest but are not sure how to do it.

Just listen and let them know that they’re not fighting depression alone!

Planning Your Way Out Of Depression

Out of Depression

I’ll not say this is a simple task and that there is a perfect plan which works with a 100% success rate because there isn’t anything like that. Everybody is unique and experience depression and anxiety in a unique and different way.

An example could be doing exercise, some people have a physical condition (like back pain) that won’t let them gain all the benefits of doing regular light exercise. In some cases then, doing exercise it isn’t a good advice.

Keeping that in mind, there are certain universal guidelines everybody can follow that can be a benefit in fighting against depression and will help massively on winning and overcoming it.

Some time ago I wrote a post called Thrill of Victory Against Depression and it’s based on how our small success can help us on stopping depression and becoming happy and joyful in life.

In this post, I want to give you a plan to leverage from those small successes.

Get Your Way Out Of Depression By Following A Plan!!

This is practical stuff I want to share with you, you’ll need a pen and a paper.

Start by writing down all the things you need and want to accomplish on a daily and weekly basis.

It could be anything, like eating a healthy meal, a relaxing walk in the park, calling a friend, doing the dishes, laundry, etc, it doesn’t matter if it sounds too simple because we both know that nothing is that simple when you’re worn out.

Now, after writing everything on paper you should organize the list with the bare minimum of things to accomplish, and once you accomplished an item just ✔.

Daily Minimum Of Things To Do

  • Taking a shower
  • Eating a healthy meal
  • Brushing my teeth
  • 20 min of exercise
  • Making the bed
  • Doing homework/chores/errands (being responsible with others)

If you find something to be too difficult to accomplish on a daily basis then you can lower the bar to a more comfortable level. For instance, let’s say you are struggling a lot just getting out of bed at mornings, then you should start with that and when you get the habit of doing it every day, you can add something new to the list.

Weekly Minimum Of Things To Do

  • House cleaning
  • Laundry
  • Go to the Gym (3 times)
  • Getting in contact with friends (3 times)
  • Doing the dishes (3 times)
  • Reading 100 pages of X book

Basically, it’s the same principle but on a weekly basis, things you need to do but are too hard to accomplish for you doing it weekly multiple times, then do them less frequently, instead of going to the gym 3 times lower it to just 2 or 1 and then commit yourself and be accountable on doing it.

Conclusion

Using a similar to do list on a weekly and daily basis I was able to manage my life with great result. And I can say, doing this not only works for getting out of depression but for entrepreneurs who want to start something.

The point of planning and executing this minimum to do list is to build a real sense of accomplishment by ✔ all you can do in one day or week.

Usually, we know what we need to do, but just don’t do anyway it because it’s just too much… That’s why keeping the focus on doing things to the bare minimum, it’s healthier because you feel like you are getting to somewhere in your situation.

After just a month of using this method when you trace back everything you’ve accomplished in that time, you’ll start to feel a lot more in control of your depression and anxiety.

Just stay consistent with this practice and sooner than later you’ll reap its amazing rewards!

Find Out The Link Between Stress & Depression And How To Stop Its Negative Effects

Stress and Depression

I do believe that if you have the right intel about you’re enemy you’ll have more resources to fight efficiently against it.

This time the intel I wanted to gather and inform you about it’s from stress and how it’s linked to depression, in that way we can discover its weak points to leverage them and finally become free from both.

Then let’s get started…

Some Things We Should Know About Stress…

According to medicinenet.com in a medical perspective, stress is “a physical, mental, or emotional factor that causes bodily or mental tension and can cause the flight-or-fight response in us.” And according to Dr. Hans Selye in The Nature of Stress, not all stress is bad for you but depends more on how you perceive any “stressful” situation.

Stress can be caused by information overload, lack of control in a situation, having too many choices, lack of sleep, social isolation, crisis, catastrophes, fear, etc. The less control we perceive we have over our lives, the easier stress dominate us.

When we are experiencing stress very often, we become proclive of making decisions in the short term.

Everything that we perceive as a threat can affect our biology and everybody has a different level of tolerance of stress, once it’s exceeded, we begin to break down and what we usually believed and liked can become meaningless to us.

This means that stress increases our suggestibility.

Now, the more in control we believe we are, the more protected we are against its negative effects. In fact, studies have shown that people who perceive themselves as being in control have more commitment to family, work and to being healthy, are less likely to have problems regarding stress.

The Link Between Stress And Depression…

In one side, a mental illness (depression and anxiety disorders in this case) make us perceive everything as worse or even as a kind of threat toward us, at least ten times stronger of what really is.

On the other side, having stress over our bearable limits for a long period of time will end up in us catching some kind of mental illness. This explains why army veterans can suffer the consequences of being at war, they easily develop PTSD.

Being under the influence of depression will make you see everything as a threat, which means you don’t have control over something and lastly will get more stressed and worn out, you’ll need a lot more energy to do any simple daily task, like brushing your teeth.

I believe this a simple explanation for the link between depression and stress and it’s the key for beginning to understand how we can fight it.

And How We Fight It?

Then, how we do it? How knowing this can help us in fighting stress and depression?

So far we know that by feeling we are in control, we will be able to resist the negative effects of stress. We have to learn how to manage our threats so we don’t feel overwhelmed when they make their apparition.

What we need to do it’s to change the perception of threats to challenges. In this way what we are doing is taking back the power of something dangerous to us, by thinking this is something I’ll overcome, this is just one of the many challenges that will come in my life!

That way there’s no reason to feel overwhelmed by the stress because we’re responding in a more positive way, focusing on what we can control rather than on what we cannot.

If there’s not anything we can do to change something we cannot control, then why bother with being too worried and overwhelmed?

It sounds simple but the real answer is, (and I know we have probably heard it a thousand times now) with a positive attitude you can overcome everything that comes in your life!

Conclusion

Mental illnesses (like depression), chemical substances (like drugs), physical and emotional pain can alter our biochemical mechanism (mind) to understand and interpret in a bad way what we perceive with our senses leading us to a state of anger, stress, and fear.

Because we cannot rely on our senses and perception under the influence of depression, we need to seek help, and therapy it’s always the best recommendation.

Now to conclude on stress, it seems that it is neither bad nor good in its nature. But depends more on the situation and the perception (or interpretation if you prefer) of a “stressful” situation.

If we can control our attitude towards everything life throw us, nothing will have a major negative effect on us, we will become stress-proof.

We must deal with stress every day. We need challenges and learn how to overcome them so we can become in the best of what we can be!

27 Best Inspirational Quotes Against Depression When Is Hitting You Hard

When something interesting catches our attention, we like to give more of our attention by thinking and reflecting on its message. We want to rationalize why it is true and how it makes us feel.

That’s what every marketer, comedian, motivational speaker and politician it’s trying to do using different means.

I’m saying this because this is what happens when we find a quote that resonates with our experiences and what we believe to be the truth.

For some weeks now I wanted to put “on the air” some of the best inspirational quotes that caught my attention and can inspire people to become better and motivate them to fight against any obstacle in life, especially depression.

Inspiring Quotes Against Depression

27 Best Quotes to Lift Your Spirit and Motivates You to Fight Against Depression!

     1. “One small crack does not mean you are broken. It means you were put to the test and you didn’t fall apart.”
– Linda 

     2. “The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can change his life by changing his attitude of mind.”
– William James

     3. “When one door closes, another opens. But we often look so regretfully upon the closed door that we don’t see the one that has opened for us.”
– Alexander Graham Bell

     4. “The bravest thing I ever did was continuing my life when I wanted to die.”
– Juliette Lewis

     5. “Learn from yesterday live for today hope for tomorrow.”
– Albert Einstein

     6. “How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you.”
– Rupi Kaur 

     7. “Never confuse a single defeat with a final defeat.”
– F. Scott Fitzgerald 

     8. “Victory is always possible for the person who refuses to stop fighting.”
– Napoleon Hill 

     9. “Above all grey clouds, there are clear blue skies.”
– David Longworth 

     10. “The great victory, which appears so simple today, was the result of a series of small victories that went unnoticed.”
– Paulo Coelho

     11. “You wake up every morning to fight the same demons that left you so tired the night before. And that, my love, is bravery.”
– Anonymous

     12. “Sacrifices will make you a martyr, victories will make you a hero.” 
– Amit Kalantri

     13. “In the end, just three things matter: How well we have lived. How well we have loved. How well we have learned to let go”
– Jack Kornfield

     14. “Everything you have ever wanted is sitting on the other side of fear.”
– George Addair

     15. “At the end of the day, tell yourself gently: ‘I love you, you did the best you could today, and even if you didn’t accomplish all you had planned, I love you anyway.”
– Anonymous

     16. “If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.”
– Martin Luther King Jr.

     17. “I try to take one day at a time, but sometimes, several attack me all at once.”
– Ashleigh Brilliant

     18. “The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.”
– William James

     19. “The man who moves a mountain begins by carrying away small stones.”
– Confucius

     20. “Try to love and live the question itself. Don’t search for the answer. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer.”
– Rainer Maria Rilke

     21. “We are not to blame for our illness, but we are responsible for our health.”
– Victoria Maxwell

     22. “Even from a dark night, songs of beauty can be born.”
– Mary Anne Radmacher
 

     23. “Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass…It’s about learning to dance in the rain.”
– Vivian Greene

     24. “Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy.”
– Thich Nhat Hanh

     25. “Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it.”
– Helen Keller

     26. “Good humor is a tonic for mind and body. It is the best antidote for anxiety and depression. It is a business asset. It attracts and keeps friends. It lightens human burdens. It is the direct route to serenity and contentment.”
– Greenville Kleisser

     27. “Truly, it is in the darkness that one finds the light. So when we are in sorrow, then this light is nearest of all to us.”
– Meister Eckhart

Bonus Quotes to Fight Depression!

“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”
– Elizabeth Kübler-Ross

“Every small victory against depression it’s a great victory to win your life”
– Isandy

4 Positive Qualities Most People Fighting Depression Ignore They Have

Positive qualities & fighting depression

While I’m not saying depression it’s a good thing to be proud of because it isn’t, it’s a mental illness and it should be treated.

But, what I’m saying is that the people who fight against depression usually haven’t realized they have some of the most extraordinary qualities we can have as human beings and don’t even know because they have the condition of thinking they’re worthless and seeing themselves broken without remedy.

Depression is tricky, it turns you into a bad narrator of your own story. And you get an idea of how bad you have it when you start to lie with the excuse of “I’m just tired of” being this partially truth.

To lift up your spirit and show you that things are better than you think, I want to share with you what I’ve found are some of the best qualities depressed people have that if they wouldn’t have to fight depression every day, they could change the world!

Most People Fighting Depression Have These Positive Qualities

Introversion

In a world full of extroverted people and with a society that encourages being extroverted as the “way to go” for everything related to success and high-status people, there’s no wonder that introverts are labeled as being something negative. Nothing further from the truth!!

There’s a lot of misconception and myths surrounding this one. Like they don’t like to talk, it’s just that they need something meaningful to say and don’t like to talk for the sake of just filling the empty space with talking for no reason.

Depressive people have the tendency of expressing this kind of behavior too!

Another common misconception is that they don’t like people and prefer to be alone all the time. They do like people, but valuable people who are trustworthy and respect others with healthy boundaries and it’s with this kind of people they love to interact with.

Introverts are comfortable with their own thoughts and they just need to recharge themselves with a quiet time being alone.

To learn more about the misconceptions and why being an introvert is something positive read 10 Myths About Introverts from Creativity Post.

High Sensitivity

Having a lot of susceptibilities or a “thin skin” is sometimes what makes depressive people what they are… depressed. Sometimes you have a reason and you know what it is that is making you feel depressed, and sometimes you can’t explain with reasons why you’re feeling like crap all the time.

It is very likely that when you cannot explain “why now”, is because you have been exposed to a negative interaction, thought or feeling so minimal that it wasn’t perceived on your radar. That’s why you take time to rationalize this feeling to make the most sense of it and it’s frustrating when you don’t find that reason.

Depression makes you feel everything darker and worthless but sometimes somedays something good happens and you feel really good and excited for at least a short period of time. And this happens so suddenly that you cannot control it.

I just had defined you how highly sensitive persons usually react to negative and positive stimulus, the only difference with depression it’s that fills your mind with more of the negative stuff. And have a lot of hard work learning to fill it with more of the positive stuff.

This one brings me to the next item on my list…

Empathy

Empathy is caring, empathy it’s the quality of being able to wear the shoes of others and know what they’ve been through in their lives. And usually depressive people see their depression as being a burden to their families, friends, and anyone that cross path with them.

The meaning of this is that you truly care how others feel, and because you truly care without fakery, your heart gets broken everytime you make (or even just think of making) them feel bad because you’re feeling the way you feel.

To simply explain the difference between High Sensitivity and Empathy is that the former just take how you feel and the latest takes this and how others feel too.

Everybody has a certain level of empathy unless NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) is present. But people suffering from depression have proved me countless times they have developed a strong sense of empathy. They’re just focusing it in the wrong way.

But wait a minute. I feel like being dead on the inside, unable to feel any emotion at all. What about me?

Then I’d say that you’ve mastered denying your negative and positive feelings! In Psychology Today there’s an article called “A Link Between Empathy and Depression” that will help you to understand better what I’m talking about.

Intelligence (being smart)

I believe it is Buddhism that teaches it’s practitioners that “emotional suffering inspires us to seek wisdom and understanding on the meaning of our existence”

Well, depressive people are usually seeking some sort of explanation on “why them.” Why they’re suffering like there’s no tomorrow… eventually the introspection intended to understand their feelings better and how things work, leads them to become wiser.

But this is a spiritual approach to this matter. In a more scientific approach, some studies show the results of smart people losing their cognitive thinking (smartness if you wish) as a side effect of depression, you know, like the ability to concentrate in any given task.

There are mixed results from different studies, and let’s not forget that the environment, childhood and character development will have an important say of someone becoming depressive over time.

But I can say by knowing a lot of depressive teenagers who are straight A’s that they are not faking their intelligence, they just happen to be experiencing life in a darker way because of their condition.

Click the link to learn more about the connection between intelligence and depression.

Conclusion

Besides having depression as a mental illness and identifying yourself as someone depressive you shouldn’t take this as your whole identity and remember that there are more inside you than just “being broke”, feeling like an “empty shell” and “falling into the abyss”

Being under the influence of any mental illness or a big trauma will give you a hard time realizing other qualities you might have. The ones that are positive, the ones that need nourishment from you because will lead you to happiness and joy in life.

I cannot say which ones you have, but I can hope that some of these resonate with you because I have learned by experience supporting friends with depression that most of them have these positive qualities and I can bet that with a little introspection, you’ll find that some of them – if not all – always has been part of you too.