Stop Depression and Enjoy Your Christmas

Depressed people deserve to have a Merry Christmas & Happy New Year too!
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December might be the most loved month by children because they expect to receive gifts, by adults because we love to receive the Christmas bonus, and by seniors because they are eager to see the whole family reunited once more.

People give a smile when they greet in the street, you can feel it in the air, the music, the food, you can sense everything been more cheerful around at this time of the year.

It’s a happy season for everybody or at least that’s how we usually see Christmas and how we feel it should be.

Not everybody feels like this is a happy season. To be honest, for quite a time I’ve been feeling the Christmas spirit to be lost in many ways.

Maybe I’m wrong about this but I feel like, as a general rule, once you gain more knowledge and consciousness with what’s going on around the world (especially the negative stuff), it will get harder to keep something like the Christma’s spirit to be alive.

I can’t talk for everyone else that thinks this way, but in my case probably it was just a natural process that came with growing up from childhood.

Depression, anxiety, or any other mental illness could have played a big part in feeling lonely, sad, and frustrated especially on Christmas for a lot of people.

You may put a mask of being happy in this time of the year to not feel too alienated and to not chase away the people you care in this world. You may dance, talk, and smile to keep the appearances around people, but what happens when you find yourself alone? Are you ruminating back to the shadow realm in your mind? Did you ever leave?

Having to fight against them, don’t leave you with a lot of energy and enthusiasm to enjoy Christmas and as much as you don’t want to end the year feeling like this, you simply don’t know any better.

While everybody seems to be having a Merry Christmas, you on the other hand are feeling anxious and probably crushed by depression.

Just Stop!!

I really mean it, just stop!!

Feelings of depression cannot be easily stopped just by desiring it. But you can stop trying to pursue happiness on the outside, you can stop resisting and/or hiding your true emotions when feeling things are crumbling inside, and stop trying to keep up a mask so you don’t feel becoming a bummer to others.

Christmas is an especial season to reach out and connect with our loved ones, being in depression and trying to mask it will cut our opportunity to have stronger and authentic connections with them because – as you may guess – you’re not being authentic in building that relationship.

Following this line of thinking, I could say that it will get very hard being able to enjoy Christmas or anything in life if you cannot find a little pinch of authenticity within yourself.

Instead of focussing on resisting, masking, hiding, and negating what you are experiencing, hone in your ability to accept what’s happening inside with what you feel and think and then give yourself permission to do little positive acts that make you feel better.

My advice is not to give up but to accept what you’re feeling and let it out. It is through acceptance that you can acknowledge what steps need to be taken to start improving this condition.

Another point I would like to mention is that if your peers and loved ones only are with you in the happy-easy times, then you need to surround more frequently with people that are going to stick with you in the hard times too.

This will create a big difference in your life. People that support you and want you to get better from depression won’t care if it’s Christmas when you open up to them.

Stop hiding, when you’re opening up don’t seek validation or attention with those people but rather a relationship based on truth and honesty. This is how you can build up your strength to stop depression and start enjoying Christmas.

With that said, I wish you Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!!

How Believing in God and/or Something Bigger Can Help Fight Depression

A man seeng the stars
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Sometimes we like to wonder about this vast space containing all the stars we see, all the planets, solar systems, black holes, galaxies, and who knows what else other things we even can’t start to imagine.

When we invest our gray matter into this kind of thinking, we would inevitably ask ourselves about how everything on this tiny planet we call earth, feels meaningless.

I know it’s not encouraging and it can even sound a little sad… but this is one of the conclusions from that train of thought.

Going in this same line of thinking we could even get depressed about how pointless can feel our actions, experiences, relationships, and even our own life itself.

In fact, there are people who believe because of this and that we came out randomly from little microscopic organisms after millions of years, is getting people angry/depressed and starting mass shootings.

I’m not taking these concepts from a hat, you can follow this link and do your own quick research if you want to know more.

Reading about these things and letting our minds wander a little more, we could see the logic but I’m not completely convinced about this being the reason for the increase of mass shootings.

Just consider this, why is it that most mass shootings occurs in USA?

In all over the world, it has been for quite a time that people have been told and taught that God doesn’t exist but the vast majority of people deciding to go outside with a gun and start to kill other people are apparently in the American continent.

Maybe I’m getting a little off the topic and I don’t want to get conspiranoid with this, but what I see is that not believing that we are being taken care of by God it’s something brushing the line of being depressive for our sake.

And that’s something that I have made peace with!

Personally I believe that our actions, our experiences, and the way we interact with each other in this world, (for better or worse) has meaning and regardless of us not understanding the reason why, I know there is a why for our existence.

We sometimes think about all of this and when we believe that there is an all-powerful God instead of getting depressed, we don’t get discouraged by these thoughts and we strive to live and experience life in it’s fullest according (in some part) to our definition of it at that moment in our life.

The reason behind this it’s that besides believing God is taking care of us, it’s because we also believe that he has created us in his image and likeness giving us a soul meant to be joyful, and full of life.

Living and having depression is something far more difficult (or it should be) when we believe in God than believing in natural selection and that we came out of chance.

It is very likely that you already know the obvious reason why this works. I will mention it anyway for those of you that are not 100% sure of what I’m implying here.

The reason is believing in God gives us purpose in life. We also feel gratitude in our hearts for receiving life and appreciate everything that surrounds us on a deeper level.

If there is something that I want you to take from all of this, is this;

When you look up to the stars and wonder how big all of this is and how little is this world, and when you think that your experiences, relationships, and your soul are just meaningless, when you start to feel depressed and overwhelmed by the futility of your life in this vast space, just remember to be grateful and realize there is a purpose for everything that happens and everything that is.

Believing in God makes it a lot easier for us to be grateful and finding purpose in our life.

Why Neurotransmitters Can Help to Fight Depression

Let me start by defining what is a neurotransmitter.

They are the molecules that are in charge of sending and receiving the messages between neurons or neurons to muscles.

In simple words, we can say they are the little messengers of our brain and body chemical data.

Now, let me continue with why those little guys have an important role to fight depression.

When a neurotransmitter delivers a message to a neuron some chemical reactions are produced in our body and/or brain. Those reactions are what lastly can change our mood toward something.

The Neurotransmitters of Happiness

There are four that are identified with the feelings of happiness, joy, satisfaction and contentment these are known as endorphins, dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin (EDSO).

I learned this from Simon Sinek who explains it in an excellent way how this works.

It’s 45:50 mins long (maybe too long for some of you) but every minute of the video is worth it!

Did you watch the video?

I understand if you don’t, but as I said, it has a lot of value!

Basically he talks about the importance of taking certain actions and what kind of results we can get if we get this well-balanced.

Living with depression can be something very draining and tiring of our energy but understanding better this kind of concepts and putting it into practice can have a huge positive impact in the fight against depression.

You may ask, how we can put this into practice? And I may ask you back (and again 😅) did you saw the video I just shared with you?

Something Curious…

After watching something interesting that we like, we cannot help but feel excited about what we’ve learned, even our retention is improved.

We also cannot help but start to theorize and connect things when there is seemingly no connection between those things. (That’s how creativity is born btw).

Something that stuck with me is what was said about the oxytocin neurotransmitter.

For now, I’m going to talk about this one and not others.

We can get oxytocin when we feel the satisfaction of receiving a good deed from others, when we do something good to others and even as a third-party by witnessing that good act done into someone else.

If you have been following me for a time, you already know about an experiment with rice by the late Masaru Emoto that can clearly demonstrate how things are affected by our thoughts. In this case, rice.

Please, check it out if you don’t know what I’m talking about.

By the way, it has been a year (and one month) since I started my own rice experiment and I’m still doing it.

Look up the results so far here…

The words from left to right are in Spanish “hate” and “love”

Now, I have connected both ideas and created my own theory (I haven’t seen and don’t know if someone else has said what I’m about to say).

I think there’s some chance that by giving good or bad thoughts about something in a subconscious way we are using a neurotransmitter that the receiving party (the object which we set our intentions) is picking and reacting accordingly.

Don’t know exactly where I can begin to test and prove the validity of this theory and I don’t want to sound too “esoteric” neither. So don’t take me too seriously on this one as I’m not sure if this is the case (more knowledge and studies into this matter is needed).

Some Final Thoughts…

A neurotransmitter can incentivize, inhibit and or modulate certain actions and behaviors by liberating some chemicals in our brain and body when we engage in some activities.

Addictions and depression can be destroyed if we learn how to balance our chemical reactions.

By doing the right things that liberate oxytocin and the correct neurotransmitters we can improve a lot our condition of being depressed.

Having sincerity in our actions, doing the best we can do in our lives to better our body, mind, and spirit are some of the things we should do and be persistent with.

How Moral Values Fight And Cure Depression

Being a teenager means that someone is not yet fully developed its maturity, and the character while it has grown and starting to take form, we know it needs to reach its completion too.

In teenagers and children, it is very important to impress the meaning of why we need to adopt moral values in our lives. Without them, society could not sustain in a civilized world and communities will destroy themselves as soon as the moral values disappear from it.

Some of the most common known moral values are:

  • Responsibility
  • Perseverance
  • Honesty
  • Respect
  • Discipline
  • Generosity
  • Acceptance
  • Integrity
  • Compassion

Now, having these values integrated into our way of thinking and way of conducting ourselves in the world is better known as having a “Moral Compass”.

A Moral Compass is what helps us differentiate the good from the bad and we only can have it if we follow the rules of this game. Maybe most people cannot see it as clear as I’m telling you but I think these rules of the Moral Compass have been set by God himself with his commandment of “do unto others as you’d like being done to you”

Moral Values to Fight and Cure Depression

What Having A Moral Compass Really Means To Each One Of Us?

We already know that the Moral Compass is called this because it gives us a direction to follow by behaving with the moral principles comprehended. It’s the consciousness of doing good or bad, being right or wrong, walking in light or walking in darkness.

When you lie to someone about something (no matter the reason) how do you feel about yourself?

Would you be proud and see yourself as someone reliable by cheating on your significant other?

How would you feel if your friend or a relative find out that you took some money from him/her?

Deep very deep down, and I mean really deep down we all know that by doing these kinds of dishonest things we see ourselves as someone toxic and our self-esteem and self-confidence suffer dramatically. In other words, immoral people know what they’re doing is bad and hate what they see in front of a mirror.

Everything said here has been great and I hope you’re getting the idea… but how all of this can help me to fight and cure my depression?

How Moral Values Fight And Cure Depression

Probably now it’s really simple for some of you to see it, but I’ll finish the idea anyway.

By behaving in “the light” and doing the best we can do with our ability right where we are, in a certain way what we really are doing is following the God’s commandment of “do unto others as you’d like being done to you” hence you are loving your neighbor as much as you love yourself!

This is in the more external and societal way of speaking, now let’s see it in a more personal way.

Depression and anxiety is the condition that won’t let you follow this commandment because you think and feel like you’re not worthy of love. This is the upper hand it has over us and lastly, it is the triumph card too if we believe we’re not worthy.

The actual way that moral values fight and can cure depression is because when you behave with morality you’re creating the self-image of someone who values who it is! And this is of huge importance because by doing this our true self-confidence and true self-esteem skyrocket to whole new levels!

Even if you don’t feel and think that you’re a valuable person worthy of love and care you need to act as if you are (you really are) and setting a moral compass of righteousness will help you in developing the right mindset and the right emotions of worthiness, love, and care!